Dear Dr. Betty,
Dear Betty,
I am a twenty-two year old virgin with severe rheumatoid arthritis. I've had a boyfriend now for a year, and though we have engaged in quite a lot of sexual activity, he is afraid that having sex with me will hurt me even more. I have extremely limited mobility in my left hip and right knee, and only so much stamina, but I love him and I want to try it. Even if it affects me poorly afterwards I'm still willing. Do you have any suggestions about what position might be the least likely to cause problems, and perhaps put my boyfriend at ease about hurting me?
There is little doubt that feminism lost ground with the last two generations of young women. I believe one reason for this has been mainstream feminists focus on rape, incest, and violence against women and girls. It's time to rescue sex from violence. We need to acknowledge sexuality as the life force that allows us to procreate and fuels our creative impulses through repeated experiences with pleasure.
Hello Betty,
I am 57, and in the past 2 years was diagnosed with (not severe) rear pelvic wall collapse, and the beginnings of a prolapsed uterus. This discovery was made when I began to have pain during intercourse and problems with constant urinary pressure. At present I am using a vaginal estrogen cream, which has helped significantly with the pressure on my urethra, but I still have pain during intercourse. But my real concern is with my orgasms.
Hello,
I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated.
Dear Dr. Betty,
Since Hysterectomy, I Can't Orgasm
Dear Dr. Betty,
I have not been able to have an orgasm since I had my hysterectomy. I thought at first it was because I was in a bad marriage, we didn't have sex at all the last five years we were together. However, I have been involved with a wonderful man for the past year, he is very loving and attentive, and has no problem exciting me! But I still cannot seem to have an orgasm, only a couple of times. It feels good, but never quite gets there. Even self stimulation falls short. Is there anything I can do?
Dear D,
Would It be Weird if I Used a Strap-on With My Wife?
Dear Dr. Betty,
My penis is 4.5 inches long and i want to give my wife something more. we have used several extensions but they fall off and do not work good. would it be weird if i use a strap on?
Dear J,
Just so you know, your penis is within the average range. Again this is where porn sends out the wrong message the same as it does for women.
Can You Give Up Sex For Your Relationship?
Hello Betty
This is very long but I wanted you to have the full story. I’m sorry. I’m 63 years of age and reasonably fit. I exercise regularly but probably eat and drink a bit too much. My wife began menopause in the mid 1990’s and unfortunately she had a terrible time over the next 4 or 5 years; we still had sex but less often.
After Menopause, My Wife Developed a "Wound" on Her Clitoris
Dear Dr. Betty,
My spouse of 38 years has developed a wound on her clitoris that actually bleeds. We engage in mutual masturbation on a weekly basis, especially since my prostatectomy for prostate cancer. Since reading your information on masturbation, she has been using the Hitachi magic wand exclusively.
Lost My Vaginal Orgasm
Dear Dr. Betty,
Cal and I have been seeing each other off and on for five years. We seem to drift in and out of each others lives fluidly and I have come to love and cherish the freedom within our relationship. I had only been with one other partner when Cal and I started seeing each other and he had never given me an orgasm (although I had given myself plenty).
Does Fantasizing About Women Make Me Gay?
Dear Betty,
I am a 24 year old woman and I've been masturbating since i was 7-8 and i love it!! best thing god created for men and women. anyways I've been wondering when i masturbate i always think of other women in my sexual fantasies when I'm doing it. Does this mean that I could be a lesbian? (I am a straight woman). I would love to hear your advice.
thanks,
F
Dear F,
Your Barbell Helped Me Develop a New Approach to Sex
Dear Betty,
I am super happy to inform you that the barbell has become essential to our marriage. I am 66 and my wife 67. We have some foreplay and then she uses the magic wand and barbell combination. She usually has a rather intense orgasm after a short while. Then I glisten myself with almond oil and either masturbate in front of her with her holding my balls, or I harden myself up and come inside with the side position (you spoke of it in sex for one). What you have done is beyond imagining! I hope you are aware of your contribution.
My Clitoris Prefers Vibrators to Fingers :(
Dear Betty,
Thank you for this site. I've been wanting to talk to someone about this issue. I was very late coming to masturbation....45 years old before I had my first orgasm. It happened with the magic wand and I quickly became addicted. I have never had much luck coming in any other way so have used it almost exclusively over the years...many of those years as a single woman.
Could Masturbation Cause Bacterial Vaginosis?
Dear Dr. Betty,
Is My Clitoris Too Small to Orgasm?
Dear Dr. Betty,
I've been married for 10 years, my husband has tried oral and manual stimulation, but I've never been able to orgasm. I have either a very small, or non-existant clitoral gland, so is there any hope? If there is nothing there to stimulate - how can I orgasm. The only good stimulation I've received is through fairly intense water jet power. Any suggestions are welcome.
Dear D,