Is It Healthy NOT to Ejaculate

Dear Dr. Betty,

When my girlfriend is giving me oral sex, she likes to place the pad of her thumb between my testicles and anus. If she feels me throbb and knows I'm about to cum, she'll push hard with her thumb there and squeeze the base of my penis with her other hand (index finger and thumb). She does this so I don't ejaculate into her mouth. Is it safe for her to do this to me? Where does the cum backwash go?

Dear JP,

Can a Man Orgasm Without Ejaculating?

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have been hearing it is possible for men to have an orgasm without ejaculating. Is that possible? I can last for 30-40 min but then have a hard time (lol) getting back up again after ejaculating. I have heard you can control your pc and stop yourself from EJ. I feel I have a strong PC but when it starts to build I can't stop.

Dear M,

Learning Ejaculatory Control

Although society has yet to honor a sexually experienced woman, I’ve gotten a lot of personal satisfaction knowing what I want when it comes to partnersex. It’s always a pleasure to be with a person who is self-assured— confident in their ability to give and receive pleasure.

Fear the Mess of Masturbation

Hi Betty,

I am a 23 year old male and I have been masturbating since I was 13. Ive struggled with the fear of making mess from ejaculating for a long time and that really kills the experience. I have a fear I guess of getting my semen all over myself. I know this is normal but I just can't get my brain to enjoy my orgasm if I don't ejaculated into a tissue.

Are there any ways I can overcome this problem?

M

Dear M,

The Hand Phallus Dalliance

Our fingertips are among the most sensitive parts of the body densely packed with thousands of nerve endings which produce complex patterns of nervous impulses.