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Dear Dr. Betty,

I am in a wonderful long-distance relationship that I wouldn't trade for anything. He and I have been together for a few years now, but our visits are few and far between; the gaps between visits have fluctuated from three months to nearly a year.

That being said, he and I had intercourse for the first time during his last visit to the States, a few months ago. It was absolutely wonderful, and we are very excited to experience it again when I fly out to visit him.

Dear Betty,

I have masturbated for many years. I am however still a virgin. When I masturbate, I use only my thumb index and middle finger and rub the head of my penis like i was rolling a spit wad. I have always done it this way and when i try to stroke it, it feels foriegn. Most people talk about stroking their cock. Is what I am doing abnormal?

C

Dear C,

Hi,

First I would like to say that I am so happy I discovered your site! I have learned so much and am becoming far more comfortable with myself. As for my question...When I was about 13 I got the idea to use my electric toothbrush to masturbate. It was amazing and I have used it since (I'm 20). Outside of laying under the shower faucet this is the only way I have ever had an orgasm. I'm very concerned that masturbating with the electric toothbrush may have damaged my clitoris and made me less sensitive there.

Hi Dr.Betty,

Hi Dr. Betty,

Dear Dr. Betty,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been married for 10 years, my husband has tried oral and manual stimulation, but I've never been able to orgasm. I have either a very small, or non-existant clitoral gland, so is there any hope? If there is nothing there to stimulate - how can I orgasm. The only good stimulation I've received is through fairly intense water jet power. Any suggestions are welcome.

Dear D,

Dear Dr. Betty,

Dear Betty,

I'm sure that this is a common problem as people age but seeking help to sexual problems when you are older can be quite disconcerting it seems.

In recent years, my wonderful wife who is 64, has lost almost all interest in sex. Sexual intercourse for us is a once or twice annually event and I happen to know that she rarely masturbates now either. I'm 65 and in recent years have noticed a decline in my libido too and in particular a decline in the strength of my erections.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years and we are very open to each other about sex and our fantasies. He told me that before we met he had sex with a transvestite. From what I understand it was a man in women's clothes, pre-op, and my boyfriend says that this guy looked so much like a women that he was ok with it. All that happened was he fucked the guy in the ass and left after he came.