She is the creator of the breath/energy orgasm and author of Urban Tantra and Ecstasy is Necessary and a beloved friend. If you have the chance to take a workshop with Barbara – DO IT. To practice Breath and Energy Orgasms at home, or how to best teach it to a partner, she's recorded a downloadable Breath and Energy Orgasm Meditation mp3 - it’s only US$15. Here’s the link
Links & Resources
We've organized a listing of sites, programs and practitioners in the space that we value and respect
Abortion & Birth Control
Women on Waves was founded in 1999 by Doctor Rebecca Gomperts - they are a charitable organization the funds Aid Access (abortion pills). They are known campaigns involve sea voyages or drones and robots to countries where abortions are illegal, but they also develop art projects, engage in legal actions, give sexual education and medical knowledge workshops, and help women with the course of their abortions via the internet.
Through this non-profit e-service you can request pills for medical abortion, and several types of contraceptives, such as contraceptive pills, emergency contraceptive (morning after pills) and condoms. You can request a medical abortion alone or with contraceptives for later use. You can request multiple types of contraceptives at the same time. The products will be sent by mail to the address that you give us. They support you throughout the entire process.
Exhale offers a free, After-Abortion Talkline that provides emotional support, resources and information. The talkline is available to women and girls who have had abortions and to their partners, friends, allies and family members. All calls are completely confidential and counselors are non-judgmental.
Referral service that provides the names of doctors, lawyers and advocates who are educated about the functions of the foreskin. Large collection of info on circ., research findings, NOCIRC publications, international symposia, medical position papers, historic highlights, NOCIRC centers and affiliates, videos, books, links.
Circumcision issues, the intact penis, and foreskin restoration. Good readable explanations, excellent close-up photos of erect penis with foreskin gradually being withdrawn, side, above, and front.
Dr. Kelly Martin Schuh has herpes and has successfully managed it for 15 years. She speaks first person and has a best selling book. She gives you the tools to live shame-free and discusses everything from holistic remedies to pregnancy.
Latest in HIV and AIDS drug development, research, and treatment information, newletter, forums, New Protease Inhibitor User's Guide, in-depth articles on HIV and AIDS treatments, and other publications, reports from the Fifth Retroviruses and Opportunistic Infections conference, much more.
HIV and AIDS information from the world's oldest HIV/AIDS service organization.
ISNA is a peer support, education, and advocacy group founded and operated by and for intersexuals: individuals born with anatomy or physiology which differs from cultural ideals of male and female. FAQs, recommendations for treatment of intersexed children, parents guide to surgery. Vaginal Anomalies: guide to options, research bibliography, links.
The first civil liberties organization devoted to ensuring that the Internet remains a truly global vehicle for free speech, and that the privacy and security of all on-line communications are preserved.
Non-profit Adult Industries Trade Association dedicated to improving quality of life for adult entertainers and the external environment for the sale of adult products and services. Sponsors insurance for workers. Good HIV Testing Program. Fights censorship and unconstitutional harassing tax laws.
Committed to protecting freedom of expression among consenting adults. Based in Washington , D.C., NCSF works through legal initiatives, lobbying, outreach, and education to promote greater understanding of sexuality and human rights. Ensuring that all consenting adults can express their sexuality identity freely and openly, without fear.
Lesbian & Bisexual Faves
The top lesbian site out there & they link to us all the time. An intelligent, hilarious & provocative voice and a progressively feminist online community for multiple generations of kickass lesbian, bisexual & otherwise inclined ladies.
Founded by Dr. Fritz Klein in 1998, the AIB encourages, supports and assists research and education about bisexuality, through programs likely to make a material difference and enhance public knowledge, awareness and understanding about bisexuality.
FUX PADS is a women owned, community based, end-to-end ethical retailer of luxury play pads. Topped with plush microfiber, our waterproof pads are washer/dryer safe, odor and stain resistant, hypoallergenic, and compatible with all bodily fluids and lubricants.
CannaSexual® is a word Ashley created to describe anyone who mindfully, deliberately combines sex and cannabis.
Joan Price is talking out loud about a subject that is often ignored or ridiculed in our society: later-life sexuality. Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex is a candid, straight-talking book addressing senior sexuality in all its colors.
Betty Martin is a Chiropractor, a Body Electric School trained Sacred Intimate, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Foundations of Facilitation trainer, and a self-propelled erotic adventurer and intimacy coach. Her Wheel of Consent is a must for anyone looking to better understand human sexuality and/to teach others about healthy sexual expression.
Pornography (the good stuff)
Erika Lust is an indie erotic filmmaker based in Barcelona. Her crowdsourced project XConfessions turns real people's fantasies into explicit, cinematic and beautiful short films shot through a female gaze. She has always championed the importance of getting women into porn, behind the cameras, and reclaiming their agency as sexual beings, showing that female pleasure matters.
Another great masturbation site that features user-submitted videos and real orgasms.
This site features beautifully shot videos of solo, lesbian, and hetero scenes. It’s a breath of fresh air in the adult space.
The Crash Pad Series is about a clandestine San Francisco apartment where lucky queers share its key to rendezvous for wild sex. It’s an honest depiction of female and queer sexuality.
Pregnancy & Parenting
Search by your zip code for a local birth doula (a childbirth coach). My one regret is that I went with a midwife instead of an OB/GYN and doula. I needed more support during my delivery.
I wish I knew about The Motherhood Center when I had Grayson. They offer supportive services for new and expecting moms, including a range of treatment options for women suffering from perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs.) They offer support groups, lactation consultation, individual therapy or more intensive services to help you feel better.
Every Mother Counts is a non-profit organization (started by supermodel Christy Turlington Burns) dedicated to making pregnancy and childbirth safe for every woman, everywhere. 3 women die every day in the US from complications related to pregnancy and childbirth.
Articles, forums and a conversation for men by men on sex, relationships, parenting and aging. The best resource out there period.
They have information on everything from pregnancy & newborns to meltdowns and talking to your kids about sex, consent and pornography (starting when they’re toddlers).
Their Center for Human Sexuality Studies (CHSS) houses one of the only doctoral programs in human sexuality studies at a fully accredited university in the United States. Betty is leaving all of her books, writings etc to Widener when she leaves the planet.
They develop, collect, and disseminate information on human sexuality, promoting comprehensive sex education.
They are the original source for all sex research. You can view their archives.
They are a major source of sex research…a treasure trove of links.
They are the sex scientists and gave Betty their public service award (the first organization to officially acknowledge her work).
A great website devoted primarily to teenage girls. The sex info is solid and the site visually stunning.
Teen sex site that covers gay, lesbian, bi and transgendered information. They include Betty’s vulva and penis sketches.
View a cervix at different stages in a woman’s cycle. There is also information on how to view and shoot your own cervix.
Padma Lakshmi founded this organization to increase disease recognition, provide advocacy, facilitate expert surgical training, and fund landmark endometriosis research.
This is the compounding pharmacy where Betty gets her bio-identical hormones for half of what she’d pay through her doctor/insurance.