Dear Dr. Betty,
Dear Betty,
I am a twenty-two year old virgin with severe rheumatoid arthritis. I've had a boyfriend now for a year, and though we have engaged in quite a lot of sexual activity, he is afraid that having sex with me will hurt me even more. I have extremely limited mobility in my left hip and right knee, and only so much stamina, but I love him and I want to try it. Even if it affects me poorly afterwards I'm still willing. Do you have any suggestions about what position might be the least likely to cause problems, and perhaps put my boyfriend at ease about hurting me?
There is little doubt that feminism lost ground with the last two generations of young women. I believe one reason for this has been mainstream feminists focus on rape, incest, and violence against women and girls. It's time to rescue sex from violence. We need to acknowledge sexuality as the life force that allows us to procreate and fuels our creative impulses through repeated experiences with pleasure.
Hello Betty,
I am 57, and in the past 2 years was diagnosed with (not severe) rear pelvic wall collapse, and the beginnings of a prolapsed uterus. This discovery was made when I began to have pain during intercourse and problems with constant urinary pressure. At present I am using a vaginal estrogen cream, which has helped significantly with the pressure on my urethra, but I still have pain during intercourse. But my real concern is with my orgasms.
Hello,
I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated.
Dear Dr. Betty,
Move Over Kegels...To Keep "Toned" It's About Squats
Vanessa Del Rio: 50 Years of Slightly Slutty Behavior
Once I turned the first few pages, I couldn't stop. Vanessa Del Rio: 50 Years of Slightly Slutty Behavior is an amazing work of art that was produced by Taschen, the German publishing company that does the best art books in the world.
My Vagina is on Lubrication Overload
Dear Dr. Betty,
Am I the Only Woman Who Has Rape Fantasies?
Dear Dr. Betty,
I know it may not be normal...I feel like a pervert sometimes, but sometimes I fantasize about being raped. Is that wrong? I imagine that a handsome guy just grabs me and throws me on the ground/ a bed and holds me down, attacking me from behind, and I beg him to stop but he doesn't...Am I wrong for having those thoughts? Is that perverted?
My Girlfriend's Vagina is Too Big For My Penis
Dear Dr. Betty,
I have a girl friend for 5 years. I'm the first man she totally had sex with but from the first day we had sex, after a couple of penetrations, i felt it's too big for me. My penis is fine (kind of average,, 6 inches) as i had been through different sex experiences with other girls and it was fine and some times very tight but after i got into my relationship (I never cheated on her by the way).
Is It Safe to Use the Hitachi While Pregnant?
Dear Dr. Betty,
I have a hitachi wand vibrator and am 7 months pregnant. i still enjoy using it on occasion but part of me is worried that the intense vibrations are not safe for baby. any reassurance?
Dear K,
There have been no tests or any research done on the use of an electric vibrator during pregnancy. But a friend of mine used her Hitachi throughout her pregnancy and also during labor. It really helped with pain management. In my mind, a baby inside would love the vibes and the orgasm would be fun to ride like waves that rock Baby to and fro.
I Can Ejaculate Easily with Boyfriend But I Can't Orgasm
Dear Betty,
I am 21 and have never been able to reach climax alone or with a partner. I can ejaculate quite easily though, but i worry that its caused from some kind of pressure build up that triggers my bladder as opposed to arousal, as when it happens I don't feel any closer to orgasm and instead just fear it actually is urine. Can this happen? Is it actually ejaculating that with lead up to orgasm?
I Have Extra Skin On My Perineum
Dear Dr. Betty,
I've seen porn. I've seen naked woman, etc. Every woman's pussy and anus is different and that is a definite fact. But...I have a very unusual perineum.