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Dear Dr. Betty,

I've seen porn. I've seen naked woman, etc. Every woman's pussy and anus is different and that is a definite fact. But...I have a very unusual perineum.

The skin sticks out. It's about an inch long, and I can literally pull on it and it stretches out about an inch as well. Now this make me feel very uncomfortable. Is it normal? My fiance says he doesn't care. He see's it as my way of being different. But to me, it's annoying and disgusting. Is there a way to get it removed? Should I? Is it normal? Does it have some significant factor? I just don't feel comfortable with it. Help...

Dear F,

There is no such thing as "normal" there are only averages. Listen to your fiance and get over feeling uncomfortable. I'm curious if what you call the perineum is the space between the bottom of your vaginal opening and your anus. If so, stop pulling on it because it only upsets you.

Although I've never personally seen what you are talking about, I'd love to have you send me a photo. Then I could respond in more detail. My first thought was that you'd confused your inner labia with the perineum. Inner lips can easily be stretched out to four inches or more. A woman in one of my workshops could actually tie her inner lips together! The entire group was impressed and we applauded. Just avoid surgery. Too many women end up very unhappy with the results, but we don't hear about them because of the shame factor. After all, it's elected surgery and it's embarrassing to think we did it to ourselves.

Dr. Betty