Dear Dr Betty,

First of all, let me tell you that you really helped my cousin out a lot in discovering her sexuality. (She's the one who recommended you). She didn't know anything about female anatomy and sexuality before discovering you. She still hasn't had a boyfriend, but now embraces her sexuality and regularly masturbates happily.

About me:

Hi Dr. Betty -

I am almost 31 yo and about 9 months ago, I decided to explore my sexuality and started exploring masturbation. I learned that I can have orgasm (yes!) but I can only do it watching porn and using a strong vibrator. I use my vibrator several times a week (I have a lot of time to make up).

Dear Betty,

Dear Betty,

I recently found your website and have been learning loads. I have been trying your techniques and though I am still working on it, I am super hopeful. There is tiny part of me thats a little worried.

I am 30 and have not masturbated for long period of my life. When i was younger i felt shame from it and resisted the urge....a little part of me worries i cant orgasm because of clitoral atrophy! I feel silly as its probably my own neurosis, but given that im only very recently sexually active I worry I may have started this journey too late.

Y

Dear Betty,

I've read many of the subjects on this website and a lot of them helped me to understand my sexuality.

Hi Dr. Betty:

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, sorry if my English is bad, my native language is Spanish. Ok, on with it.

Dear Betty,

Thanks so much for taking the time to answer.

I'm 19 years old and sexually active, i have a bit of a problem with the fact that my labia majora is so swollen after oral sex or just stimulation. My partners have either given oral or tried to stimulate it but i don't really feel anything and at the end of the night its so swollen that i had to try to cool it down with ice water but it usually takes 2-3 days to go back to its normal size.

Could this be some kind of infection? Or is it just me?

Dear R,

Dear Dr.Betty,

I am so glad to have found you website! I am a 24 year old girl from India. We are the land of kamasutra but sex is largely a taboo in our country and premarital sex is a strictly secret affair, no one even admits they do it!

I started having sex with my boyfriend recently, we have tried just 5-6 times so far, not counting the times we spent trying to just loosen my vagina as it was too tight and penetration hurt a lot.

My concerns are:

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been with my partner now for about a year and a half. When we met it was complete passion through and through. But now I don't feel aroused by anything anymore. It takes me a long time to get worked up and I'm always in my head during sex it seems.