Dear Dr. Betty,
I am a 60 year old crone. I take lisinopril, hctz, and lipitor as well as lexapro. I have not had sex with a woman for more than 5 years. I have not touched myself in about 4-5 years. I have been very asexual in mind and body. I have been "dry" a very long time. I recently met the woman of my dreams. I am aroused to passion. We have made love twice.
Dear Dr Betty,
Dear Dr. Betty,
I love your website. I consider myself reasonably well informed but I've learned quite a lot from it. I'd appreciate your comments on a problem I have. When my husband stimulates my 'G' spot during his manual manipulation it feels wonderful. The problem is afterward I have frequent, urgent and often false needs to urinate. These sudden feelings of needing to take a pee sometimes go on for several days.
She was so soft spoken on the phone that I had to ask her to speak up several times. Badu told me she was an African woman from Kenya who had been circumcised. Two years ago, she began looking for information to understand what had been done to her as a ten year-old child. She came across my name online and made the call.
Dear Betty,
I appreciate so much your book "Sex for One". It's amazing how these old self-defeating messages rob us of our dearest self-love. I believe orgasm rejuvenates our whole system as taught by Yoginis for centuries. My first orgasm (never to be repeated) was a Whopper through oral sex from a "guru" type.
Dear Betty,
The first time I saw The Vagina Monologues was in 1996 when it was off, off, off Broadway. Friends of mine who'd seen the play had alerted me that the author and sole performer, Eve Ensler, mentioned my workshops. That evening I sat in a small theater listening to a charming young woman who talked about my Women's Sexuality Workshops with a distorted view of what I'd been doing for over twenty-five years. She called it "The Vagina Workshop." Never in my wildest nightmare would I have ever considered using the word vagina to describe the work I'd been doing.
Dear Miss Betty:
March 1st is the anniversary of my first orgasm and I felt it time to thank you for your role in that. After stumbling upon your website two years ago in dire sexual frustration over my "inability" to orgasm, I was inspired by the empowering nature of the material you and Grant have included and proceeded to lay down to enjoy my own sexual responses. Before I knew it - fireworks! I wept and released years' worth of inadequacy.
Hi Betty,
I'm a 21 year old who has never had sex. It's not that I haven't tried. But my vagina is so tight that my boyfriend can't penetrate me. I first tried having sex when I was 17 with my boyfriend at that time. We were both inexperienced and after trying various positions, we finally gave up because I was starting to get sore.
Dear Dr Betty,
I am finishing my last year of university and, due to study costs, have started working in a "rub and tug" massage parlour where I apply myself in oil, massaging and sliding over a male's body before performing hand relief.
Hi there Dr. Betty,
I'm in my mid 20's & for various reasons I'm still a virgin. This may sound like a stupid question but would a guy be able to tell I was a virgin when I have sex for the first time? Would it be obvious or am I better off telling him - being a virgin in your mid 20's makes you seem a bit like an anti social freak.
Thanks, D
Dear D,
Hi Betty,
I recently read your book Sex for One, borrowed from a friend who was making a documentary about female masturbation. In any case, I am a 21 year-old student who just started exploring my body very recently (on my own that is) and I have come across many interesting things.
For one, it seems that I am an ejaculator. At first, like every other woman, I figured I had peed on myself. But I smelled and checked and made sure it wasn't pee. So the only logical conclusion was ejaculation (and a rather large amount of it too).
Because of Prolapsed Uterus Orgasms Painful!
Hello Betty,
I am 57, and in the past 2 years was diagnosed with (not severe) rear pelvic wall collapse, and the beginnings of a prolapsed uterus. This discovery was made when I began to have pain during intercourse and problems with constant urinary pressure. At present I am using a vaginal estrogen cream, which has helped significantly with the pressure on my urethra, but I still have pain during intercourse. But my real concern is with my orgasms.
Afraid I'll Fart or Pee if I Orgasm During Sex
Hello,
I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated.
Need Help with Anal Sex!
Dear Dr. Betty,
Is it Normal for a Straight Man to Obsess Over Men's Genitals?
Dr. Betty,
I have a kind of unusual question, and after seeing you on television, I figured you may be one of the best and knowledgeable people to ask. My ex-husband and I have a fairly good sex life. I think he is not as freaky as he claims to be. His idea of freaky is a threesome (with him running the show). But, since I'm not into it, we have not tried it.
Are Incest Fantasies Normal?
Hi Betty,
I don't know quite how to put this, so I'm just going to come out with it. I have (something like) incestuous fantasies. Sometimes I call my boyfriend Daddy when we have sex, and he tells me that I'm his "good little girl." I'm not thinking of my father...or anyone else's father for that matter. I just don't know where this is coming from, but my orgasms have never been so intense.
Any Natural Hormones/Herbs to Boost Libido?
Dear Betty
The Art of Getting Apart
Breaking up is hard to do and yet it happens to most of us. Statistics show that half of all marriages end in divorce and many people remarry to repeat the pattern again- and again. Add to that the number of couples living together without benefit of marriage along with couples in committed relationships and we're talking about a major portion of the population. Instead of receiving any useful information on how to begin and end a relationship, I was given a romantic love story that promised passionate sex in marriage with a happy life ever after.
Is Licking Ass Dangerous?
Dear Dr. Betty,
I love your advice in Bust, and felt like you were the safest and most reliable person to ask this question (and was afraid what I would get if I "googled this!). I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and it has been the most loving and sexual relationship I've ever had. The last time we had sex, he was giving me oral and started to lick my anus. It felt amazing and I had a great orgasm.
Facing Hysterectomy & Don't Want Lose Orgasm
Dear Dr. Betty,
I believe that a high percentage of my orgasmic pleasure lies in my uterine contractions, although I find it difficult to separate all that I feel during orgasm into the reaction of my various internal organs.
The Art of Getting Apart
Breaking up is hard to do and yet it happens to most of us. Statistics show that half of all marriages end in divorce and many people remarry to repeat the pattern again- and again. Add to that the number of couples living together without benefit of marriage along with couples in committed relationships and we're talking about a major portion of the population. Instead of receiving any useful information on how to begin and end a relationship, I was given a romantic love story that promised passionate sex in marriage with a happy life ever after.