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Dear Dr. Betty,

I don't feel comfortable with myself because I am 30 and never had sex. Not even a kiss, not even a relationship with anyone, never been touched by anyone, never touched anyone. Nothing. Never.

Since I was 13, I am perfectly aware of my being lesbian, and I spent a long time feeling guilty about it. I've felt wrong for long. More precisely, I have been feeling guilty, shameful and all that bad stuff about sexuality. About being sexual, you know?

Hi Betty,

I have been an admirer and advocate of your work for many years. I work as a health educator and counselor and have been talking with young women (and men) for over two decades about the importance of masturbation in celebration of self. Your "Selfloving" DVD has been an important part of that necessary education. I have also been teaching an introductory Women's Studies course for the past four years, and have utilized your video each semester.

Hi Betty,

I have been having sex with a male partner for a month or so. I have some questions about safer sex practices. I have found that the best way for me to orgasm is when he rubs the tip of his penis around my vulva and slips it occasionally just inside my vagina while I stimulate my clitoris with a vibrator or my hand.

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm a humongous fan of yours and you have completely changed my outlook on sex, love, and life in general. So thank you! I have a question for you. When I stand up with my legs pressed together you can see my clitoral hood quite easily, as well as my inner labia. It's all hanging out for everyone to see. Is this normal?

Betty,

I find your views spot on and full of clear guidance within the darkness of repression within and around us. To bring us further out of the darkness can you point to some articles or respond with your current thoughts on raising children so as to foster openness about sexuality and specifically the ability to accept and enjoy pleasure as adults later in life?

Dear Dr. Betty

Recently, I've broken out of my labeled lesbian title and taken upon just enjoying my youth with having sex with men and women that I am attracted to emotionally, mentally, physically and sexually. I've never felt so good a day of my life sexually until I liberated myself from my labels and started my partnership with my best mate.

Hi Dr. Betty,

I've spent quite a bit of time reading your great posts. I still have a question, though, about orgasm with manual stimulation. I completely agree a woman should be able to bring a vibrator into any sexual encounter-- and I do-- but I would still really love to be able to orgasm without a vibrator. I'm 29 and have never been able to do this.

Am I forever addicted to the vibrator, or is there hope?

Thank you!
J

Dear J,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I was recently talking to a friend of mine and was telling him something that I really hadn't talked to anyone about before. I am a 20 year old student, I define as lesbian, I masturbate via clitoral stimulation only, and have never been intimate with another person.

Dear Dr. Betty,

First I'd like to say thank you for helping me to discover and experiment with my sexuality, your website has been a great help to me.