Dearest darling Dr. Betty~

Dear Betty,

I am a 21 year old female who has been bleeding a little after sex. I lost my virginity at seventeen ... but it took many tries (my boyfriend had to insert one finger at a time, etc), and I bled after the first time. We stayed together for the next three years and had sex probably upwards of 5 times a week. He was forever telling me that he loved my being "tight" and I never experienced bleeding again. I recently began to date another guy and I have been bleeding about 1/2 the time we have intercourse.

Dear Betty,

My dear husband and I were having some fun this afternoon. My question is that when he orgasmed, I was working my PC muscles at the same time which caused him to start laughing uncontrollably. He said it was because the sensation was very intense. He was laughing so hard it made me laugh too. It was a fun experience but one I've never had before. I would like to have a laughing orgasm, seems like it would be a double release. It was fun and a little weird to watch my husband though. Have you ever experienced anything like this?

Thanks!

Dear L,

Dear Dr. Betty,

Dr. Betty,

I am a 43 year old woman, and have been married to the same man for 21 years (ok...so maybe that is my problem - not enough variety). My problem is I have never been able to experience an orgasm with a partner. I had several other partners before my husband, and it just doesn't happen for me. I was sexually abused by my grandfather when I was a child, and I don't know if that has something to do with it.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I know it may not be normal...I feel like a pervert sometimes, but sometimes I fantasize about being raped. Is that wrong? I imagine that a handsome guy just grabs me and throws me on the ground/ a bed and holds me down, attacking me from behind, and I beg him to stop but he doesn't...Am I wrong for having those thoughts? Is that perverted?

Dear Dr. Betty,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have this crazy fantasy of masturbating while I watch my girl suck off another guy. Is this wrong? How can I bring up this subject with her?

Dear T,

No it's not wrong to have this fantasy. In fact it's quite common. Just don't expect your girl friend to go for it instantly. It's your fantasy not hers. You bring it up just like you did with me. Keep it light-hearted and humorous. No pressure.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 22 and female-bodied, currently dating a 20 year old male. With my current partner and past male partners, I've experienced a bizarre, unpleasant sensation during vaginal intercourse any time my partner's penis hits my cervix. I wouldn't describe it as painful, but definitely not a feeling that I enjoy. I've recently discovered that this is due to an unusually retroverted uterus - my gynecologist tells me that my uterus has not only an extreme backward tilt, but also sits distinctly to the left side of my body.