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Dearest darling Dr. Betty~

As with most people who request your expertise and knowledge on all things sexually-oriented, I have a personally perplexing question that has been bothering me for quite some time. Also like many of the other curious people who have asked for your guidance, I: have had a serious boyfriend of 3+ years, never come to orgasm during intercourse (only during masturbation), have a healthy relationship with my body, and watch porn once in awhile when I can't see my boyfriend for weeks on end. Now, this is where the tricky part comes in--I never feel a sexual NEED to masturbate, I just do because it feels good.

I'm not particularly interested in sex, however, because it doesn't feel good (this I have attributed to boredom with my current lover, but I could be wrong). And on top of it all, I enjoy porn more featuring women (sometimes only women) but I could never picture myself actually having sexual relations WITH another woman, much less enjoying it. For some reason, I would just rather watch females than males when I masturbate. Is there something wired wrong in me? How can I start enjoying real sex with my real boyfriend more, and stop watching only lesbian porn?! Please help, any and all advice are most appreciated!

Thank you again, Ms. D~

C

Dear C,

When it comes to masturbation, it's like going to the gym. It may be hard to get there but it feels really good afterward.

As for your lack of orgasms during partner sex, that's quite common. How you masturbate is what you want to incorporate into your partner sex. And if that doesn't work for you you might consider having an experimental affair with a woman. Get my book Orgasms for Two.

Dr. Betty