Bearing down excessively hard can cause what I call a vibrator burn

I too had some in my youth but I never knew why or how to recreate them so they were never all that dependable.

Given your late start at 45, I would suggest you simply accept your electric friend.

Your clitoris is a woman's primary sex organ for pleasure.

Perhaps it will help if you add your PC muscle in the penetration process.

Once you learn how to come with yourself then you can show your guy what you like.

That ticklish feeling is the beginning of sexual arousal.

Babies should be left alone. Gender is a social construct and surgically altering their genitals is immoral.

Find a guy who is vibrator friendly and use it on your clit while he's paying attention to moving inside your vagina.

It will take time but you will can move forward past your childhood masturbation technique.