It will take time and practice to learn another masturbation technique.

Your mental block is wanting back your more youthful sex life but it won't happen.

Even though you feel "turned on" and you think you are getting wet, I'd recommend adding additional lubricant.

No such thing as a clitoris that's too big.

Vaginal stimulation would be what I call "indirect clitoral stimulation.

You'll just have to add fantasy and maybe some sex toys later on to keep it lively.

Consider the possibility that your masturbation technique needs improving.

Some clits pop right out easy. Others clits are shy and hide under the hood.

There isn't a "spot" in your vagina that will bring you to orgasm. Your clitoral system is complex. It's about clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration.