You can upgrade your masturbation technique to orgasm from a lighter touch/stimulation.

It's up to us to explain that and not expect them to read our minds.

I too had some in my youth but I never knew why or how to recreate them so they were never all that dependable.

Your clitoris is a woman's primary sex organ for pleasure.

With you legs opened wide, you might be sucking air in through your vagina and when or if you bear down, the air will be forced out creating what I always called a "pussy fart."

Combining clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration gives you an orgasm.

Perhaps it will help if you add your PC muscle in the penetration process.

Genital size incompatibility is not uncommon and it will remain a problem until you speak about it so you can seek a solution.

Kegels can overwork your pc muscle. Squats are the perfect pc muscle exercise to keep your vagina toned.

It will take time but you will can move forward past your childhood masturbation technique.