Ejaculation is like a reflex. Orgasm is an autonomic body response.

It will take time and practice to learn another masturbation technique.

Your mental block is wanting back your more youthful sex life but it won't happen.

Even though you feel "turned on" and you think you are getting wet, I'd recommend adding additional lubricant.

After you develop orgasms with your clitoris, you can play around with all those esoteric spots inside the vagina.

The most creative idea I can offer is to get the Magic Wand vibrator, my Vaginal Barbell and use them.

You'll just have to add fantasy and maybe some sex toys later on to keep it lively.

Consider the possibility that your masturbation technique needs improving.

There isn't a "spot" in your vagina that will bring you to orgasm. Your clitoral system is complex. It's about clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration.

Female ejaculate is clear not white like male ejaculation. Our sexual response is totally different.