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Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a girl friend for 5 years.  I'm the first man she totally had sex with but from the first day we had sex, after a couple of penetrations, i felt it's too big for me.  My penis is fine (kind of average,, 6 inches) as i had been through different sex experiences with other girls and it was fine and some times very tight but after i got into my relationship (I never cheated on her by the way).

Every time we start to have sex after she gets aroused it (her Vagina) gets bigger and bigger till it reaches the point that i feel like it's so so big i can't feel i'm inside something...and it's been quite some years from the day we started to have sex.  We never communicate about it and i don't wanna make her feel she is abnormal (I pray she is not).  What can I do about it??

Dear A,

Genital size incompatibility is not uncommon and it will remain a problem until you speak about it so you can seek a solution. One possibility would be for your girlfriend to become aware of her pelvic floor muscles and learn how to use them to grip your average penis. This will require some form of communication which I believe is essential for any good sexual relationship. If you don't want to upset her you can blame your lack of sensation on your small penis. Since she hasn't had sex with anyone else, she will not know that your 6 inches is average. Ask how she feels about your penis. If you don't feel any contact neither does she!

Do you know if she's having orgasms? Very few women orgasm from vaginal penetration only. Usually when a woman has a climax the vaginal muscles will tighten or squeeze a few times. Check out my information under Betty's Barbell and perhaps get her one. Suggest she work on her toning her pelvic floor muscles that will enhance both of your pleasure. Or, focus on other forms of sexual stimulation like manual or oral sex to enjoy more sensation. I don't know your age or much else, but in situations of size incompatibility, you also might consider finding another partner.

Dr. Betty