I hope you develop more respect for your body and in the future never let some jackass slam into you like what you described.

As a practitioner and promoter of masturbation I also understand the need for touch by another person.

It's up to us to explain that and not expect them to read our minds.

We need to remember that a fantasy is just that: It's a made-up story that has nothing to do with reality.

Our gender identity is far more complicated than our binary system of straight or gay.

Any man who is smart enough to do this will also be able to continue love making long after his penis has gone soft.

Bearing down excessively hard can cause what I call a vibrator burn

You're one smart man who will not be put "on pause" as you have expanded your definition of orgasmic pleasures that can continued to be shared.

I too had some in my youth but I never knew why or how to recreate them so they were never all that dependable.

Given your late start at 45, I would suggest you simply accept your electric friend.