The orgasms you have with yourself are usually the best, but every now and then when the stars line up in the just the right way, partnersex can be profound.
I sounds like five years of monogamy have dampened your desire and getting married sealed your fate.
It's not vaginal vs. clitoral orgasms...you want both.
If you want to increase the intensity of your orgasms, edging - getting in front of an orgasm and holding back - will do the trick.
Your first contact with your vulva should be with your hands. Then, as you age, including a vibrator can enhance your pleasure.
Learn how to penetrate your vagina and engage your pc muscle to achieve orgasm and enhance your orgasms.
There is nothing wrong with being celibate.
This article in iNews on Bodysex and Betty's life work is a tipping point. The internal clitoris and vulva pride are mainstream.
It is time to redirect the focus on cultivating our sexual relationship with ourselves.
You are a self-sexual which is a valid lifestyle.