Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. If you stimulate your clitoris during penetration, you can orgasm from their penis.

Female ejaculation can accompany orgasm BUT it is not an orgasm.

Don't forget this whole delightful process is about PLEASURE.

You can use too much pressure on your clitoris. Add lubricant and use a gentle touch.

Since you have no physical problems enjoying sex with yourself, your response to being touched by a man is most likely psychological.

I see no conflict in using your oil.

This is such a perfect example of a woman protecting the male ego!

If you still prefer vaginal stimulation then get a dildo that curves up at the end.

Always begin your conversation with a compliment before you discuss your desire for more kissing and affectionate touch.

All women are capable of orgasm. We just need to connect to our bodies.