Dear Betty,

I'm sure that this is a common problem as people age but seeking help to sexual problems when you are older can be quite disconcerting it seems.

In recent years, my wonderful wife who is 64, has lost almost all interest in sex. Sexual intercourse for us is a once or twice annually event and I happen to know that she rarely masturbates now either. I'm 65 and in recent years have noticed a decline in my libido too and in particular a decline in the strength of my erections.

Hi Betty,

First of all, thank you so much for your website. Even with as liberal of a mother as I had to raise me, the down and out details of sex, and overall how-to's are hard to find.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Ever since my first child was born I lost the interest in sex. I have always loved sex and my husband and I always had amazing sex before I had my daughter but now I just can't get into it. I used to love for him to suck my nipples now I can't stand it and when ever I cum I lose all interest in it. Please help! My daughter is already 3 and I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old, so we still have sex. But it's not the same.. it's ruining my marriage..

Dear M,

Dear Betty and Carlin,

Thank you for reading my question. I appreciate your time and perspective and I hope that my email addresses a worthy, yet lesser-discussed topic that will interest your audience.

QUESTION

I have been asking myself: “Do I need to accept medical celibacy due to a low libido, anorgasmia and dyspareunia?” If so, do you have recommendations for accepting this lifestyle?”

BACKGROUND

Dear Betty,

First let me tell u "Hi" and thank u for being around. I discovered u last year and since then Ive been hooked, though unfortunately I dont visit this place as often as Id like to. Now about me.

Hi Betty,

I'm seventeen years old, have been masturbating since I had sufficient dexterity, and have never achieved an orgasm (to my knowlege). Maybe I did when I was younger, but not since I could remember. I know that you're probably thinking that I'm young and should give it more time, but I'm very well researched and have tried a lot and this particular issue is the source of a lot of anxiety and misery for me, though I've came to accept it more than I used to of late.

Dr. Betty,

Hi Betty,

Firstly I'd like to thank you for the important work you do in liberating women's sexuality. It's meant a lot to me over the past year since I discovered your website, and I especially learned a lot from "Orgasms for Two". It made me see my body, my sex organ and the sex act in a completely new light, making me much more comfortable in my own (naked) skin. Thank you!

The question I have for you is one I have not seen addressed on the site or in any of the books I've read. My problem is that it is very hard for me to become aroused.

Hi Betty,

I am a 17 year old girl who, until a few months ago, didn't even know what my vagina looked like. I know I've always been a very sexual person in my thoughts, but my parents never talked to me about it, and I suppressed all my feelings and thoughts my entire life.

Dear Betty,

First of all, thank you for your work, it helped me to recover my sexual self after psychological trauma during my childhood, which stripped me of my sexuality up until I was 20. I had to teach myself how to masturbate at the age of 19, and slowly I became able to orgasm with partners, and enjoy my casual and non-casual sexual adventures through and through. I find sex to be a fun thing to do, I take care of my needs, I love pleasing my partners, I love to show them and tell them what turns me on, I love fucking and making love, I love to shag men and women equally.