Find a guy who is vibrator friendly and use it on your clit while he's paying attention to moving inside your vagina.

It will take time but you will can move forward past your childhood masturbation technique.

It will take time and practice to learn another masturbation technique.

There is a product called D-Manose which is a white powder taken with water.

The decision of not using condoms and dental dams is an individual choice once you have birth control in place.

I have always thought if more men could experience anal penetration they would be better at entering a vagina.

Even though you feel "turned on" and you think you are getting wet, I'd recommend adding additional lubricant.

I too ended up using d-mannose years ago and it works

There isn't a "spot" in your vagina that will bring you to orgasm. Your clitoral system is complex. It's about clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration.

My first thought was doing Kegel exercises and improving your pelvic floor muscle tone.