I’ve written this in an attempt to describe orgasm techniques that I have developed from hours and hours of practice alone and during partner sex.

It's time for you to have a love affair with yourself while wide awake.

I no longer use the word "anorgasmia" as it's just too clinical and cruel. I much prefer the term preorgasmic.

You have your fingers and hands and a brain to conjure up erotic images.

At 40, your body is changing and will continue to do so especially during and after menopause.

Most important is to enjoy what feels good and communicate when something is uncomfortable.

The solution lies with her NOT you.

When we engage our minds through fantasy and indulge in some magic herb, you orgasms can take flight.

Every time you orgasm from clitoral stimulation you're demonstrating the female model of sexual response.

Sensitizing your clitoris takes time. It's about lubricant, practice and an open mind.