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Living at Home...Can't Order Sex Toys...How Can I Masturbate?

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Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty

I'm not a teen anymore, but I live with my parents. Unfortunately I don't believe they understand I have sexual needs as an adult because they still see me as a kid (because I'm still an University student and I never dated anyone before) so they wouldn't accept the fact that I do masturbate and need sex toys.

Thing is, I'm too shy to go to a sex shop all by myself and I can't order online because of my parents.

What can I possibly do? Thank you so much.

Dear A,

Please do not believe you have to have sex toys in order to masturbate. You have your fingers and hands and a brain to conjure up erotic images. You can surely manage to get some kind of organic nut oil (to moisturize your skin) and massage your vulva. I enjoyed orgasmic masturbation with my hands until I discovered the vibrator at age 36.

Even then, I still used my hands and continue to do vulva massage with my hands today. You have many years ahead to experiment with toys. For now, you fingers will create your orgasms. Besides they don't make any noise.

Dr. Betty

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