Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are naturally angry for not being taught how to experience sexual pleasure in the first place while our male partners ejaculate every time. It’s no wonder you’re mad, confused and wondering “What wrong with me?”

Dear Dr. Betty,

I used an exercise bike about 2 months ago. The seat put a lot of pressure on my perineum, but never made any contact with the clitoral area. I experienced this shooting pain in the perineum area a few hours after I got off of it, and it occurred again on and off for a few days after. I'd only used the bike for an hour. 3 days after, I was unable to orgasm.