Dear Betty,

Dr. Betty,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 18 years old and have been having sex since I was 15. I've always masturbated since I was little and it has always felt amazing to me. But for a while now I have not been able to achieve orgasm or even have it feel good when I stimulate my clit.

Hello Betty

I'm 26 and just discovering my sexuality. I know it is embarrassing but I'm delighted about my journey. I've only ever been able to orgasm with a vibrator and most successfully the hitachi. I masturbate daily now and it feels good but I never get the big Os without the vibration. I can't seem to climb the orgasm hill without it. Its like my body is an engine that can't get seem to start.

What exercises can I do to improve my sensitivity? I know PC muscles, and learning to breath, letting go of expectations?

It's been more than a year since I first messaged you... With a few questions about never have had an orgasm. I am almost 35 now.

I have dedicated hundreds of hours to myself and masturbating since then. I bought a barbell and the fabulous magic wand. I have read all your website, your books, DVDs...

Dear Dr. Betty,

Hi Dr,

I have been reading a lot of these posts and can somewhat relate to most of what people are saying...however, there are a few differences.

When I was young, I never masturbated, I would sometimes be aroused but didn't know what to do (I guess I was pretty repressed and confused) so the feeling would eventually pass. I cannot remember the exact age I was...but over the past maybe 10-15 years (I'm 26 now) I have never felt particularly aroused. I've had sex, but I cannot actually reach arousal let alone orgasm.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have been looking around google to try and find something that tells me exactly what goes on in your body to make you feel that climax sensation. I have had no luck, for one website told me that the more orgasms a women has, the more cum builds up in some sack near your bladder, and eventually needs to drain itself through, in simplified way, "squirting". So yea... no luck.

What goes on internally? what is that blood rushing sensation in your clit and why does it feel so good?

Dear D,

Hi Betty,

I've been in the same relationship since I was 18. I'm 35 and just had my first clit orgasm on my own. Sex with my partner is sooo boring. I've tried all kinds of ways to liven it up. He prefers showers with oral pleasure. To top it off he is very small and my g spot is abnormally deep.

He doesn't like toys which only leave me foreplay which last just as long as sex: 1.5 mins. We have a teen so opportunities are even more limited. At this point he feels like a brother not a lover.

I am referring to Primary Anorgasmic, which, to my knowledge, is the inability to have an orgasm, ever.