She was so soft spoken on the phone that I had to ask her to speak up several times. Badu told me she was an African woman from Kenya who had been circumcised. Two years ago, she began looking for information to understand what had been done to her as a ten year-old child. She came across my name online and made the call.

After I read the article below by Anne Koedt in 1970, I was thrilled and made a cold call hoping to meet and discuss how we could collaborate. Although Anne was suspicious of me over the phone, once she was sure of my feminist credentials, she set up an appointment. During our visit, she explained that after receiving so much hate mail and a death threat as a result of her article, she was going to disappear. She had just begun a new relationship with a man she loved and didn't want to jeopardize their future with feminist politics.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I realize you are mostly a woman's advise page, but I admire your work and was hoping you could shed some light on a very confusing issue. I cannot seem to find answers elsewhere. I am a middle aged man in a 20 yr marriage. My wife is the only women I have ever been with. For the last several years I have been experencing ejaculation (premature?) without much if any orgasm. I just come but have none of the "intense feelings" I used to have just seems to sort of dribble out. Anorgasm??

I don't have especially long labia, but I was wondering if labiaplasty could help me. I'm 22 and I've never had an orgasm, even though I try to masturbate regularly and have used a vibrator. I love having sex and my body and I don't have any hangups, so now I'm wondering if my problem could actually be in my anatomy. My clit is tucked away between lots of folds, and it's not very sensitive and my partner can't reach it with oral sex. In my case, could labiaplasty to trim everything help?

Dear BH,

Hey Doc,

For a woman, when is it considered "loosing your virginity"? Is it, for lack of better words, when someone goes down on you, is it fingering or does it have to be actual penetration? Can you even draw a line with all the factors that come into play?

Thanks

Dearest Betty,

First of all thank you (and Carlin) for making it your business to educate the rest of us! I find your website a resourceful, inspirational, intelligent place to come back to over and over again. I have learned soooo much from it!

Hi Betty.

When I masturbate my clit gets very ticklish to the point where I just can't stand it anymore and it kills the pleasure that I am having. What can I do to get rid of that tickling feeling?

Thanks

Dear C,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been married for 10 years, my husband has tried oral and manual stimulation, but I've never been able to orgasm. I have either a very small, or non-existant clitoral gland, so is there any hope? If there is nothing there to stimulate - how can I orgasm. The only good stimulation I've received is through fairly intense water jet power. Any suggestions are welcome.

Dear D,