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Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 16 and I really want a vibrator. But you can't enter sex shops if you're a minor and I can't order online so I've been thinking of just telling my mom I masturbate and getting her to get one for me. Even if she says no, she can't stop me from masturbating. It'll just be a bit awkward between us for a while. How do I start a conversation about this and convince her to get me one?

Dear D,

My advice is to stay with manual masturbation in your teens. Unfortunately too many girls and women get lazy and mis-use vibrators by wanting to have "quickies" when it's far better to take time to enjoy the more subtle pleasure sensations.

If you feel you MUST have a vibrator, then initiate the conversation with your mom. There is no special way to do this other than being honest and upfront. I didn't use a vibrator until I was in my mid-thirties. When we get older they are a goddess send. But our teens are a time filled with new raging hormones. The only sex toy you need is some clean organic massage oil for vulva massage followed by using your fingers covered in oil to simulate your clitoris. Enjoy the basics before adding technology.

Dr. Betty