From Trauma to Orgasms

Dear Betty,
I love your site, it has helped me a lot, thank you and Carlin for the wonderful work you do.
I have a four year old girl, since she was three she loves to touch her vulva, she opens her legs and touch her all the time, everywhere, I want to be a sex positive mother so I let her do it, but I always try to make her understand that she has to do it in her room not in front other people, but she touches herself in the subway, in our living room, where she wants, I don't know what to do, if you could help me with your wisdom I will be very grateful to you.
Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex.
Hi Betty,
I am a 23 year old male and I have been masturbating since I was 13. Ive struggled with the fear of making mess from ejaculating for a long time and that really kills the experience. I have a fear I guess of getting my semen all over myself. I know this is normal but I just can't get my brain to enjoy my orgasm if I don't ejaculated into a tissue.
Are there any ways I can overcome this problem?
M
Dear M,
Hi Betty ,
I saw a video about you yesterday and I write your today because I´m very interested in getting help for what happens to me.