Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 54 and a blowjob virgin.

I've tried twice-gagged the first time and the second time was ok but it really makes me uncomfortable and i know my new b/f really likes it; I dont know how to tell him i don't know how to do it. I've seen a couple of your youtube videos, but since we haven't even had regular sex yet after 4 months due to a back injury of his, I don't feel quite ready to attempt an inexperienced BJ and be embarassed etc. he does his best to pleasure me and i him but i want the true lovemaking experience first.

Dear Betty,

I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend when she is very musky. I find it very erotic and exciting. If she has been to the gym, hasn't showered for a day, or especially the day after intercourse are the most exciting for me. The extremely musky scent and tangy taste drives me wild. She likes it too but is concerned that there might be a health risk from not washing.

Hello Betty,

i think you are amazing!! Anyway, i was watching a video and you mentioned gag reflex. Some days i'm a champ no gagging and others its bad. Just wondering how i could stop that completely. I know practice could help. Also I've never been able to deep throat and have the guy cum straight down it. Once it happened and i nearly choked to death Hahaha.. Would just like to know your thoughts.

Thanks so much A

Dear A,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a new partner who has an significantly upward curved penis and I don't know how to perform oral sex.

He is a very attentive and pleasing partner. As we have only had sex a couple of times and are working through another issue, I am reluctant to talk to him about this ... yet although I agree that communication is key (and we do but I don't want to discuss this yet from concern that it may impact on another issue we are working through (ED!)).

Dr. Betty -

I recently found your site and thought that if you had the time, you could help me with a problem that I've had for a while. I know masturbation is more of your thing, but if you wouldn't mind giving me advice on safe oral sex, it would be much appreciated!

Hi Betty,

I have a doubt since long and I think you might help me. Almost every time I recieve oral sex my legs start to tremble and it´s kind of never stopping. I mean how can I realize that I have finished? Do I have to stay longer? I always end in telling my partner to stop cause I can't control it.

XOXO, love your page

Dear M,

The trembling usually means you are about to have an orgasm or you've just had one and are experiencing after shocks of pleasure that will continue as long as you are getting good clitoral stimulation.

Hi Dr Betty,

Dear Betty,

I am a 40 year old woman. I have never been able to have an orgasm from oral sex. I was married for 15 years to someone who didn't like to go down on me, so I have limited experience with it. But I have a partner right now who loves giving oral. So I'd like to take advantage of it but I can't seem to do it. I can orgasm from masturbation without a problem. Can you help? Thanks so much.

Dear AD,