Articles

Hi Betty,

love the website. So my question is this. I am a 30 year old virgin is something wrong with me for being one? I feel that I should have lost it a long time ago. Now for more about me. I am a straight man and I feel guilty for finding women attractive and also my heterosexuality feels wrong. I am also really insecure about the size of my penis. I come from a house where my dad was a sexual deviant and through out my teenage years my mother constantly reminded my me about it.so my sexual feelings feel wrong till the point that I have publicly purged my sexual self till the point where not even my own family knows I am straight.

And my father did not help things either by telling me the most important thing women look for in a man is a large penis at the expense of everything else and it is size that determines the woman's pleasure.

So to some it up is it wrong that I am a 30 year old virgin? And is there something I can do about it?

Dear A,

I dislike the term "virgin" applied to women or men. It's my belief that If you have masturbated to orgasm you are no longer a virgin! Sorry to hear about your difficult family life but that's often the case for many of us. We are a bit more challenged as we make our way through life in spite of having disturbed parents. Being successful is the best revenge.

As for the size of your penis, you and millions of other guys all want HUGE dicks that really don't interest most women at all. If you wanted to be a porn star better chose another line of work. Meanwhile, learn to love what you have. Go into our website and read what's available. Like my friend always says, "It's not the size of the fish, it's the motion of the ocean." Time to get over yourself and count your blessings.

Dr. Betty