Orgasm questions to Dr. Betty arrive at a steady pace… How can I be sure I’ve had an orgasm? How can I get a bigger orgasm? Or why can’t I orgasm during sex with my partner? What does an orgasm feel like? How will I know if I’d had an orgasm?

“I have never been able to have an orgasm with anyone; either with clitoral stimulation (although I've been close) and nothing with vaginal penetration. I thought it was only a matter of trust and letting it go, but none of my partners last more than three months.”

Hi Betty,

Dear Betty,

I have been masturbating since a very young child, and thanks to you have progressed from rubbing up against surfaces to touching myself with porn to now preferring my own fantasies with some coconut oil and penetration - these orgasms I have on my own are great! I am 19 years old and am in my first serious relationship. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for 2 months now, and so far has been a good experience.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been in a relationship for 4 years and I still haven't had my first orgasm. I've been faking it for all this time. How do I tell my partner and how do I get my first orgasm?

Dear TL,