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Hi Betty,

I am 25 years old and have been married for almost 4 years and have been with my husband for almost 7 years. Since the day we have met, he has known that I am bi-sexual and I have told him about how I had oral sex with a girl when she and I were both in high school.

He knows also that I had a three way with two guys in a cemetery while in high school as well. So I suppose my question is: I am still very much attracted to women, I only masturbate to female porn, and I would really like to have another female encounter. I can't imagine going the rest of my life without one. He knows this, we have talked about having a 3 some with another women, but how we do get this all to happen? How do you find someone to do this with? A lot of me thinks that I really just want the experience without him there, but can I explain that to him? Any ideas would be great!

Dear Discoqueen,

We all have a right to fulfill our dreams and the sexual fantasies we chose to act out. Like all other opportunities in life, we gotta go for it which can be scary. I got to the point where I finally understood that if I wasn't scared on a regular basis, my life was in limbo. I agree with you. Your next encounter with a woman would be best with just you and her alone. Later on, hubby could be invited to join you. For now, I see no need to explain this to him.

If you feel you want him to know this, then just say so. My first threesome was with a girlfriend I liked a lot. My boyfriend at the time had to promise that our next threesome would be with a guy. You know, the old goose and gander saying. It was all good fun, no one got jealous and we all had a good time. Be sure to share the details after you satisfy your sexual longings.

Dr. Betty