Hi Betty,

I've been having trouble sticking to the right guy for more than a few months. I'm currently single drowning myself in romance novels and having a recurring dream for the past two weeks.

In my dream I don't know this person and, i barely look at him. I feel so much pleasure during the dream. I wake up and I am all hot and sweaty even with the AC on.

Hi Dr. Betty,

My husband and I have been sex chatting online since he is overseas. We have been monogamous for close to 20 years. We are close to 40 and started sharing fantasies. I mentioned inviting another woman into the picture and he has been chatting away the last four days about nothing else. I gave him a hall pass and told him he can have a fuck buddy.

We have retained both the ideal of ownership and the story that a vagina can be “polluted” by another human.

I need to masturbate more and spend more quality time with myself.

Monogamy is based on religious ideology - not reality.

Hiding masturbation activities may be a simple as not having the skills and abilities to communicate our own personal needs and desires openly.