Hi Betty and Carlin,

I am a twenty-two year old woman from Brooklyn who just got out of a very devoted & intense six-year heterosexual relationship. During those six years (with the exception of a six-month break and two short-lived sexual partners) I had a lot of sex: some of it really great; but now I'm scared that my sexual experience has been irrevocably molded by my ex-partner's particular set of sexual preferences.

Dear Dr. Betty

Now 21, I have been heavily curious in exploring different acts of sex since I first started masturbating - whether with males, females, multiple partners, role play, manual, fetishism, fantasy, and so on. It would first take an imaginative form, (and regrettably I'd have sought out pornography to fulfill it) but eventually I began to physically experiment with my fellow friends which gave me much excitement and enjoyment. My appetite for new sexual experiences merely grew.

Dear Betty,

There is something I am curious about, I don't know if you have ever run across an answer in your studies.

Maybe people are in sexless marriages, and many people have the opinion that it is wrong to have an extramarital affair. What do those people in the latter group think is the solution for those of us in the first group? I know you are not a proponent of "mating in captivity", and I know where you stand on extramarital sex.

Hello Dr. Betty,

As the subject stated we are considering playing with others. I am the male in the relationship, and could use some advice.

First off, we have been together for nearly 9 years and have always been very close. I quickly had to tackle my jealousy issues as she has many male friends and I have always supported her and trusted her. She has been fine with me and female friends, and in fact was fine with me living with one of my old crush's for a few months due to work.

Dear Betty,

I come to you with a heavy and ambivalent heart. I’ve been married to my husband for 13 years, and we’ve been together for 17 years. I’m 39, he’s 44. When we met I’d had a handful of sexual partners, only one in a committed relationship. He’d had probably two handfuls, with two or three serious relationships, neither terribly healthy (there was cheating and drama). He was ready for marriage before I was, but I entered into marriage with an open and willing heart, at age 27.

Hi Betty!

I just recently found your site & let me tell you, it is exactly what I've been looking for - an informative, classy site for people who have real sexual questions & concerns. Thank you!

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm a 30yr old female living in North America. I've been in a monogamous relationship for almost 3yrs now. We have the most amazing sexual relationship I have ever experienced and as a result we have both been able to openly discuss and explore all of our kinks and fantasies. I've never felt so sexually liberated.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Your topic hasn't included affairs! Why do men/women have affairs? I'm in a situation where I can have an affair with a younger man (16 years my junior) I'm 46 I actually persued him because we started flirting with each other and I asked him if he was interested in starting up an affair with me. Even though we have done some oral play we haven't gone into full penetration as yet. I love my husband of 28 years but he doesn't turn me on anymore he tries but when I suggest we do something new he just raises his eyebrows.

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, thank you so much for everything you do! This website has helped me so much in liberating myself from society's norms and expectations in terms of my sexuality and needs, though it's still a challenge sometimes. My favorite part in this adventure was buying myself a wand. (Giggle!)

In order to find sexual satisfaction, I had to go outside my marriage. My soon-to-be ex-husband is too selfish and insecure in bed so I'm moving on.

Dear Betty,

I decided to find a couple to have sex with (let's call him) my sex friend and me. Both of us are pretty excited, but I have some doubts...do you think we could start with having sex as a couple and the couple does the same... in terms of getting comfortable ... and maybe then start to "mix"? or is it a weird idea?

Thank you
(BTW - thanks to you I convinced at least one man that a feminist is man´s best friend :) )

Dear E,