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Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a question! I'm 23 years old and live with my fiance. My sex drive is through the roof and to my fiance he almost thinks its like a burden. He hasn't actually said that, but he can always tell when I'm in the mood and he like rolls over and goes to sleep. He's told me before that his friends at work wished that their wives were in the mood as much as I am. So I don't really see it as being a bad thing. Our sex life isn't boring at all, but it just seems like lately he's done a lot of the roll over and fall asleep bit.

Dear M,

This is where communication between you and your partner comes in. I'd suggest you talk to him about how he is feeling about your sex drive. Does he feel you are a burden sexually speaking? Is he going through some tough times on the job? And where is masturbation on your sex menu? If he's not "in the mood" or too tired, what's to stop you from going into the living room and helping yourself to an orgasm? You're in a prime fertile age at 23 and your hormones are pushing you to reproduce. Luckily with contraception we can do family planning. I don't think you're sex drive is "through the roof."

By the way, I think sex just before sleep is not a good time. After a long day of work, our bodies are often drained. Maybe before dinner or on the weekends. This is another thing you and your BF can discuss. Either way, it doesn't sound like such a serious problem that you can't reach an agreement as to timing your love making sessions to satisfy you both.

Dr. Betty