Virtual Bodysex includes 5 one-on-one video chats with Carlin focused on orgasm, overcoming shame, and deepening your experience of pleasure. Sessions generally run for 45-60 minutes each:
Session 1 - Education: vulva styles, internal clitoris, vaginal penetration & pelvic floor muscle
Session 2 - Genital Show and Tell: I will guide you as you view your vulva
Session 3 - The Rock n Roll Orgasm Technique
Session 4 - How to Use Fantasy to Increase Your Pleasure
Session 5 - Check in to see how you are progressing
Once your orgasm is in place, you'll be invited to join a weekly erotic recess session hosted by me and attended by other Bodysex women and Bodysex leaders.
The price is $600. To sign up:
1. Create an account and purchase a video subscription: https://dodsonandross.com/product/71 There is custom content for you - video and audio podcasts.
2. Send your sex essay described below to firstname.lastname@example.org. Then we'll schedule our first video chat.
What You'll Need
To practice Betty's Rock 'n Roll orgasm technique, you'll need lubricant, a dildo (we prefer Betty's Barbell), and a vibrator. If you hate vibrators, you can use your hand.
You can use an sort of clean oil as a lubricant (coconut, jojoba or even olive oil in a pinch); we prefer almond oil. And you can use a vibrator you have or pick up a magic wand on amazon. Here are links to both:
If you're interested in purchasing a barbell, let me know. Clients get a 35% discount coupon.
Write a few paragraphs answering the following questions:
• Your religious upbringing; parent’s attitude towards sex
• Your first memory of masturbation
• Your first partner sex
• Your current sex life
• Your sex goal - what you desire
Then you'll email your sex essay to me directly and we'll talk through it during our first video chat.
Also, read through the sex feature articles below. You'll gain a better understanding of the female model of sexual response, try the techniques at home, and have your questions ready for our video chats.
When we touch ourselves on a regular basis, we sensitize our sex organ to stimulation. If you feel too much, you will feel less. If you feel nothing, you will feel more. I can't emphasize enough the importance - throughout this process - of touching your vulva with almond oil and NOT having an orgasm.
When we take the orgasm off the table, we relax and gain a better understanding of what feels best for us - what parts of our vulva are the most sensitive. There are definite erogenous zones but how a woman likes to be touched is different for each of us.
Below are two guided audio podcasts - the first is 5 minutes of breathing to help you transition from the stress of your day to pleasure. In the second podcast, I take you through the basics....have it playing in the background so I can support you through the process.
The "bulbs" contain erectile tissue - we have just as much erectile tissue as men but our erections are internal. Notice the "clitoral shaft" which is like a rubber band. Run your finger from side-to-side over your clitoral shaft and notice the feeling.
The urethral sponge contains prostate-like fluid - about one teaspoon - that is what we call "female ejaculate". The urethral sponge fills up with fluid to protect the bladder from the friction of penetrative sex.
Female ejaculation is a real response for some women. If you stimulate the urethral sponge and push out with your pelvic floor muscle, a small amount of fluid can be released.
Know that female ejaculation is separate from an orgasm. Betty objects to the focus on female ejaculation because it mimics the male model of sexual response (ejaculation = orgasm). The female model of sexual response is much different and more complex - that's why we can have multiple orgasms.
The positive sensation can travel up and down the urethral sponge.
Notice how the bladder is right behind the urethral sponge and in front of the uterus which is why stimulation can make you feel like you have to urinate.
Notice how muscle circles around the clitoris, your vaginal opening and your anus - like an infinity - and the pc muscle is like a sling. To engage your pc muscle, insert your finger into your vagina and squeeze - that's your pc muscle. Clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration (while squeezing and releasing your pc muscle) = multiple orgasms.
I want you to dedicate 20-40 minutes to the Rock 'n Roll. You can use the barbell or even a homemade carrot or zucchini dildo (they didn't have dildos when Betty started the workshops so she used vegetables). The important thing is to combine direct and indirect clitoral stimulation.
Below is an audio podcast where I coach you through the Rock 'n Roll. Let it run in the background as you practice your technique.
There are no wrong thoughts. There is no thought police.
Once you feel confident with the Rock 'n Roll technique, I want you to add a fantasy to your masturbation practice. You can listen to audio erotica if you need inspiration.
The audio podcasts below are fantasies that Betty and I verbalize during erotic recess. The women love it and we hope you do too.