First time anal penetration is best done by you alone.
His fingering was enough to cause little vaginal tears as he had no idea what he was doing.
You have your fingers and hands and a brain to conjure up erotic images.
Most important is to enjoy what feels good and communicate when something is uncomfortable.
Water based lubes are to be used with a latex product like condoms then oil is best.
Control your own clitoral stimulation during partner sex...use lube and have a fantasy. Masturbate regularly to create desire and self-love.
All women can enjoy regular orgasms through regular masturbation practice.
Your GF can begin to practice expanding her vagina by using the pelvic floor muscles during masturbation.
Our pleasure repressed society thanks to most organized religions puts a huge emphasis on vaginal intercourse.
When we aren't wet due to nerves or whatever, always use some kind of organic massage oil for all manual touching of genitals.