You might want to consciously begin to tone your pelvic floor muscle.

That burning sensation is signalling the stimulation is too strong and too direct on a sensitive organ with 8,000 nerve endings.

Women have an internal clitoral system so you may be able to achieve orgasm depending on the type of FGM.

I no longer use the word "anorgasmia" as it's just too clinical and cruel. I much prefer the term preorgasmic.

If you've been leaning on furniture to orgasm, it will take time to re-sensitize your clitoris to stimulation with just your fingers.

At 40, your body is changing and will continue to do so especially during and after menopause.

Most important is to enjoy what feels good and communicate when something is uncomfortable.

The solution lies with her NOT you.

The trembling usually means you are about to have an orgasm or you've just had one and are experiencing after shocks of pleasure.

Sensitizing your clitoris takes time. It's about lubricant, practice and an open mind.