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Hi Betty,

I was wondering about penis size. My questions are 1. What is the ideal size a penis needs to be to pleasure a woman? 2. Do all women like really large penises like in porn? 3. How important is penis size In a relationship? 4. What can a man do to give a woman pleasure if he happens to have a small penis?

If you are wondering about the nature of these questions it is because I think I may have a small penis and am worried that I will not measure up to a woman's standards in terms of penis size. It is something that has bothered me for along time. I am 27 years old and am single. The reason is that I have heard that penis size is extremely important and a woman will dump you automatically if she thinks your penis is small. All I want to know is if I measure up properly.

Thank you.

Dear A,

We have a doc on the site by a guy who went around asking these questions. I'll see if I can find it. Meanwhile I'll take your questions one at a time.

1. What is the ideal size a penis needs to be to pleasure a woman?

There is no one "ideal size" as every woman is different in her preferences. It's sad to know so many men are concerned with this, when in truth, so few women can orgasm from penis/vagina thrusting. So I'd say a man who has good hands and knows how to kiss above and below will win out over a big dick any day. Besides, if you have a GF who likes 'em BIG just get a humungas dildo and bang away. It's a woman's clitoris that really matters, not the size of a penis.

2. Do all women like really large penises like in porn?

Some women like large penises, but not all women.

3. How important is penis size In a relationship?

Only as important as you make it. There's a million other factors to consider. Too many to name. Just stop and think a minute. Communication: A man who can share his ideas and feelings easily. A sense of humor. A pleasant disposition. A steady job or a profession he likes. Self confidence. Need I go on?

4. What can a man do to give a woman pleasure if he happens to have a small penis?

Take the time to learn about female sexual response. Honor the importance of her clitoris. Tell her how much you appreciate her. Pay attention to her likes and dislikes. Be a gentleman with good manners. Most important would be a good provider. And don't forget to have sex toys available next to your bed. C'mon. You can read a million books on this subject.

The average sized penis is around 5 and a half inches erect. Like they say, "It's not the size of the fish, but the motion of the ocean.

Dr. Betty