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Dear Dr. Betty,

Hello, let me start off by saying you are an inspiration and a very talented women. And I desperately need advise.

For a while now my stomach has been turning with adrenalin, excitement, lust and fear. I understand that it is morally wrong to engage in any sexual content with a married man, but both of us are consenting adults. He approached me first and we have continued to flirt back and forth ever since. I have known him for a while before it was sexual and know he is a safe man that would not take advantage of me.

Having said that, i am a virgin (i hate that term) let's just say i have not been vaginally penetrated from a man's penis. He is planning on taking me and a friend on a trip and we all agree that we are going to have group sex. I am just contacting you looking for advise because i can not escape the fear that i will somehow be caught either by his wife or my dad. i think thats the biggest fear because i know everything else will be perfect. What should i do?

Thanks
S

Dear S,

It would help if I knew your age before giving you my opinion on this camping trip. Feeling "adrenalin, excitement, lust and fear" certainly lets you know you are alive. I'm quite fond of experiencing all of them. You say, "Morally wrong?" Let me ask whose morals are you talking about? Not mine that's for sure.

Before having first time vaginal penetration, I advise girls and young women to be the first to do this. There is an essay on the subject. Look at the left hand column on the front page of our website. Click on "First Time Vaginal Penetration." Read it more than once. Follow my directions. Do it and then arrange to have some kind of contraception before you fuck him. First times are not all that great but maybe this one will be. Just don't bring his wife or your dad along on the trip!

Dr. Betty