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Below is the full text of the article that ran in Marie Claire announcing my "number" of sex partners.  When I got the call from the writer, I knew I had to come out of the closet for other sexual young women.  My family thought it was a bad move since I had just ended a relationship and was dating again - "who would want an experienced woman?"  Less than a year later, I was pregnant and heading off to Costa Rica to get married on the beach to the love of my life.   Mr. or Mrs. Right will value your experience and your independent orgasms.

At age 11, I wanted to know what sex felt like, so I broke my own hymen by propping my legs up in front of a mirror and sticking my Barbie doll's leg inside my vagina. I wanted to know firsthand what went on down there.

I lost my virginity at age 15, and when I entered college I quickly racked up 34 partners. I've slept with all types of men: first the smart computer geeks, then I got into the power sex—billionaires, law partners, investment bankers, and senior executives. After that, I loved the starving artists. I've slept with every tax bracket and every race.

A three-year relationship ended when I turned 30, and I embarked on a two-year party phase. All I wanted to do was be single and free. I had tons and tons of one-night stands, and it felt liberating to have sex with no commitment. I went to clubs by myself to dance and meet men, attended wild celebrity functions and glamorous, exclusive sex parties (run by women) just like in the movie Eyes Wide Shut. It was at these parties that my number really shot up. Everyone would dress up in fancy outfits or crazy costumes and drink cocktails. Then, at midnight, the women would take off their tops, and people would have sex in every corner of the room, in front of everyone. I had sex with a woman for the first time at one of these parties.

Since then, I've slept with 15 more women. Sex with a woman is softer, slower, and more sensual. Women also take their time kissing, so there's more erotic buildup. Yet despite my love for women, I don't like the idea of being labeled "straight" or "gay." I consider myself "sexual."

I'm proud of my number. I had most of my sexual adventures in my 30s when I could handle them. Looking back, I had no idea what I was doing in my 20s, but now I'm making informed, adult decisions.

Right now, I'm dating a wonderful guy who doesn't know what my number is, but he suspects it's high. I'm not sure about marriage because I'm a free spirit and sexuality evolves over time. Who knows about the future? I never say never.