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Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm a 35 year-old man living in Brooklyn, New York. I've constantly been on your site for years now and it's helped me out a lot. I've subscribed to DodsonandRoss on facebook and I recently purchased your book "Orgasms For Two": The Joy of Partner Sex"and I love it. It's difficult to put it down.

Anyway getting to the point, I have a question about masturbation and pornography. I watch pornography sporadically (2-3 times a week) and practice my come control whenever I masturbate to it. I'm able to go on for a long time whenever I masturbate to watching porn. I don't have a girlfriend yet nor a sex partner yet, but my main concern is, if it's possible to get ED from watching porn in moderation while masturbating.

I wouldn't want to be able to get an erection from watching porn but not be able to get it up when I hook up with an actual woman. If watching porn regardless of the amount causes any kind of porn induced ED, then I'll happily give it up. But I'd like to know your thoughts on it beforehand.

With much admiration and respect,

M

Dear M,

I'm so happy to hear from a guy who was smart enough to get my e-book Orgasms for Two. It's been a "best kept secret" for too long. One reason I've come up with is that I'm supporting the use of vibrators during partner sex. Seems too many hold the romantic image of Juliet coming from Romeos cock. I've got nothing against the concept, but for all the girls and women who have orgasms with vibrators, what's wrong if they want to use one during sex with a lover? The vibrator revolution is a fact of life so why not embrace technology?

Now onto your question about porn. The problems occur when a guy uses porn consistently which leads to diminishing pleasure. Like a druggie needing more to feel the affects after long time use. I also believe it's better to just form your own fantasies mentally instead of relying on the cheap canned images of commercial porn. That's why so many turn to "Amateur Porn" as being more real and therefor hotter. Fantasy is at the heart of the creative process so delving into your own mind is far more interesting. You're going to make some lucky woman happy with your inquisitive mind seeking sex information.

Dr. Betty