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Is It "Bad" to be Open About My Sexuality?

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Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

First off I want to say you and Carlin are amazing I'm in love with you both, I'm a lot like you guys when it comes to sex I've always been a very sexual person and a very open person about sex.

When I was younger I had a neighbor, who was a girl just like me, and we would fool around. We would both sit there marveling as we watched my dads porn together. It was the first time we had both been sexual people. We had both never masturbated until we met. It was fun and interesting, but I always felt bad... my mom walked in on us one time and she wasn't completely sure what we were doing but suspected...

Betty, that didn't stop us LoL you think it would have scared me into never doing it again but we continued. I'm in high school and my close friends know I masturbate. We play games like truth or dare and it normally leads to sex questions. It seems to amaze them how honest I am. Most high school girls are mortified by the subject of masturbation, I'm not. Hell, I told my boyfriend in detail about how and where and whatever he wanted to know about it. I use to randomely send him erotic stories that I had written, he was somewhat of a prude but he liked them.. If you get my drift LoL. I guess I'm telling you this because I want to give you hope.

Slowly women are changing their opinions on sex and its many variations. I do have a question though, is it bad that I'm so open with my friends? I worry if they can handle it. And I just wondered what your thoughts were, if you have any, on my sexuality in general? I didn't come from an overly open home on the subject. I just kind of knew. I knew how to masturbate and how to do it right on the first time.

Thank you. Love you.

Dear T,

Thanks for sharing your story with me. Yes, what you say is very hopeful. I believe we need many more young women like you who can speak their minds about masturbation. After all, masturbation is the foundation for all of human sexual activity. It' is our first natural sex act. It's how we learn to like our genitals and discover the pleasure they can provide.

It will be a better world when we can all be proud of masturbation and treat it with the honor it deserves. Thanks again.

Dr. Betty