I Feel Like There's Pent Up Sexual Energy in Me That I Can't Release
Betty Dodson
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Dear Dr Betty,
I'm a 15 year old girl and I've just tried stimulating my clitoris with a strong shower head to achieve an orgasm. I've masturbated numerous times with my fingers, through penetration, but it had never been this intense. In the shower, if I aimed shower head at the right position and just held it, the muscles in my body begin contracting immediately. After only a short period of time, my thighs clench, my back arches involuntarily and embarrassingly, and I don't stop moaning or biting myself. However,
I've tried using a weaker shower head but it ends up the same, just that the build up is stronger. My abdominal muscles contract and my pelvic area spasms during the time I'm stimulating myself, but as I said I always have to stop before the release. The feeling is INTENSE; it feels like something is continually building up and I'm about to explode but that's just it. I'm at the border and I never tip over. I never actually feel the relief or release or relaxation after I get these overwhelming sensations.
I feel like there's a lot of pent up sexual energy in me that can't be released and afterwards, I shake all over and my crotch feels hyper-sensitive, not in a good way. I'm completely on edge for extended periods of time after I masturbate because I don't feel the release. I don't know what this means, please help me!
A
Dear A,
Like most girls and women, you have yet to learn what female sexual response is about. Unfortunately society uses the male model which doesn't not apply to us. We are quite different. As long as we receive clitoral stimulation, our bodies will continue to respond. You are over-stimulating your sweet little clitoris.
Expecting yourself to feel sexually satisfied and relaxed when it's over like a guy will just fall out and go to sleep. NO! We can keep going until we are exhausted. Go back to using your hands with some kind of organic massage oil. Or do not use the shower head directly on your clitoris. Move it around off to one side above and below. Learn to be a good lover for yourself.
Dr. Betty