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Betty,

I have a question regarding nipple stimulation during masturbation. First allow me to give you a quick background on my wife.

My wife of 11 years has recently begun to "find herself" sexually and open up. Along with this "awakening" ( she wasn't too bad before...just not as liberated as she is now in my opinion) she has begun masturbating much more often. She now masturbates about twice a week at night before bed. She terms it "treating" herself before bed. I think this is great and I have encouraged her to explore her body and sexuality. As an aside we have sex on average twice a week on top of her masturbatory activities.

She in the past rarely masturbated alone (but did on occasion) and only did so with her Hitachi Magic Wand. She has other toys but before only used her wand. She has now begun incorporating a dildo about half the time that she masturbates. Again I encourage her to do anything that comes to mind that adds to her pleasure.

When we are together, like many couples, we sometimes engage in mutual masturbation. We often times will lay together and she will masturbate with her magic wand and while she does that I will use my fingers inside her and suck on her nipples. She really likes the nipple suction...to be frank she really enjoys it when I suck hard on her nipples.

Now when she masturbates alone these days she sometimes tries to incorporate nipple stimulation into the mix. Unfortunately she has yet to find a way to stimulate herself on her own. She has tried manually stimulating her nipples but really doesn't enjoy it. She has also tried a separate nipple vibrator ( a small toy that she purchased at a toy party) and while it is "okay" it isn't fulfilling her needs or desires when it comes to nipple stimulation during masturbation. I was wondering if you would be able to recommend a toy or toys that she could use during masturbation. Given that she likes hard suction on her nipples during masturbation are there any toys out there that would satisfy her needs? I have done some internet research at it seems that based on reviews on most nipple suction type toys there are issues with the unit falling off the breast/nipple during usage. We are willing to pay for a good and reliable toy that would give her what she wants but of course don't want to break the bank.

Can you steer her in the right direction?

Thank you.

C

Dear C,

We used to play with snake bite cups. They can be found in camping stores. But it's just one long suck. Since she likes the sucking action, it's gonna be you (or your neighbor) unless you can find an electric suction pump. Also most sex shops have nipple clamps that can be adjustable but they don't suck they just pinch, but it can be an intense sensation. Looks like this is going to be your job. Like with oral sex vary the sucking with finger play so you can last longer.

You're a lucky man to have a wife opening up sexually. It can be quite a ride. I'm happy to see you are enjoying every minute of it. Tell her I wish her many Happy O's.

Dr. Betty