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Hi Dr. Betty,

This is a really embarrassing question, but I sometimes fart when I orgasm. I'm sure it's a fart and not a queef. It happened in front of a partner for the first time recently because my partner was trying really hard to make me orgasm and I felt like I was taking to long, so I tensed my body and stimulated myself with my hands intensely to make myself have a very quick orgasm which was also accompanied by a very loud fart and I was humiliated.

Now I hold myself back from reaching orgasm when we have sex because I'm afraid it will happen again.This sometimes happens when I masturbate as well. Is it something I'm doing wrong? Or is there something I can do to reduce the chance of farting while reaching orgasm.

Dear D,

You named your problem quite well: " I felt like I was taking to long, so I tensed my body and stimulated myself with my hands intensely to make myself have a very quick orgasm." I also suspect you were bearing down or pushing out and any gas in the lower bowel just had no choice but to escape. Yes, it's embarrassing but only because we act like we don't shit, fart or belch!

This is just the result of have a human body. No need to make a federal case out of a little old fart. If if happens again just laugh it off. Or make a joke like, "I hope I didn't just push out a turd." Once couples live together a while and get used to each other, fart jokes often are the rule not the exception.

Dr. Betty