The Experience is Rebirth

Carlin Ross

Submitted on Tue, 10/27/2015 - 12:10

We held our second certification workshop this weekend with 8 women training to run their own Bodysex groups across the country. We'll be adding Kansas, Upstate New York, Virginia, California, and Maine to our "territories". What excites us the most is the quality of women who will be carrying Betty's work forward. Their stories overlap yet each is unique and will put their own stamp on Bodysex.

Sometimes Betty distracts herself when there's change afoot with friends, dinners and a bit of champagne. As we were heading into the weekend, she asked if we were having a certification workshop. I could tell that she was hesitant like she didn't really understand that 2 women had already completed their certification, 7 more were in process, and we had another 8 scheduled. That's 17 women with one mention in our Youtube clip and one blog post (2 more signed on this morning).

Betty has never wanted to be a guru. She's passed up money, fame, and power several times in her career. There aren't many people with that kind of integrity. The authenticity of her brand and truthfulness of her information have always been the priority. But I had different designs.

It was really the Bodysex research that got me thinking that we had to scale Bodysex. Betty ran workshops for 30 years. Since the groups have to be small, only 2,000 women were able to have the experience. I knew that the only way to grow was to train other women to do the work; Betty had reservations but moved forward. That's one of the things I respect most about Betty. She may question but she always accepts the challenge (and listens).

Lisa Meyers, the woman who is researching the "Bodysex effect", was in the circle and one of Betty's oldest friends who ran groups with her back in the 70's in San Francisco. That was inspiring, that the woman who did the research wanted to be apart of the new generation of facilitators. It speaks volumes.

And I wasn't nervous about leaving Grayson for the first time. It felt right. He was missed but I wasn't upset about it or distracted. On the contrary, I felt this tremendous feeling of gratitude the entire weekend. I have an adoring husband, magical baby, and work that feeds my soul. I changed my life...I took the risk...and now I have it all. Bodysex certification is the cherry on top.

As we broke up the women in groups of two to do "mock" genital show & tell, I watched as Betty sat on a stool guiding them through the process. Suddenly, her face changed. I could see that she finally understood what we're really doing, that these women are her "disciples". She was beaming: proud, honored, and exhilarated all at the same time. We spoke on the phone yesterday and she's still flying high. It's more rewarding than I can ever describe.

When people come to Betty's, they always ask about how we set up the room. I've been taking high res photos to use in our materials and figured I'd post one here. The room is perfectly square, carpeted, with windows on both sides and doors leading to and from the space. In many ways, it feels like a womb. For most of us, the experience is rebirth in its purest form. Women healing women.

Finding time to orgasm post-baby is a challenge. We're still finding a balance and, I'll admit, that the only time I can masturbate is while I'm sleep nursing. I couldn't wait for erotic recess. There's something about sharing orgasms outside of the romantic diad that creates the closest friendships. At one point, a woman asked "who was I coming back and forth with?" The orgasms traveled through the circle through each woman to the next and back again. Betty cried out, "God, I love to make love to myself" and we all laughed.