Bearing down excessively hard can cause what I call a vibrator burn

You're one smart man who will not be put "on pause" as you have expanded your definition of orgasmic pleasures that can continued to be shared.

Given your late start at 45, I would suggest you simply accept your electric friend.

The only way to change the pattern of men thinking the sex act is over when they come is by speaking up.

She is not breathing sufficiently to get enough oxygen into her brain with most of it going to her genitals.

Find a guy who is vibrator friendly and use it on your clit while he's paying attention to moving inside your vagina.

Most important is to communicate with your wife and listen to what she says.

If you've never masturbated, now would be the time to learn about self-pleasuring.