Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

Here's the link to our newest product we're offering in the Sex Shop: The Mystic Wand.

It's basically a miniature Hitachi Magic Wand that's battery-powered, portable (amazing for travel), a bit easier to maneuver than the Magic Wand, and the same diffuse deep vibrations, except a bit higher pitch than the wand.

Betty loved it from the first moment she came with it and lovers of mine are all following suit. I like it with some massage oil on the underside of my penis, laying on my back, penis back against my stomach, the same way a woman would use it on her clit. If you need a washcloth for the Magic Wand, and it's still too strong, the Mystic Wand may be precisely what your clitoris needs.

Was looking at a favorite pinup model today named Suzie Q. Her interview mentioned how she retained her nipple sensitivity while going from a B - C size to a D cup. I have discussed breast enhancement / augmentation with lovers before and the issue that gives them pause, besides back issues, clothes fitting, and difficulty with exercise, is loss of nipple sensitivity and scars. Suzie Q is the first I've heard with no visible scarring or loss of nipple sensitivity because they go in through the underarm. Thought I'd put that out there for women who are interested in a larger cup size and keep their nipple eroticism. This sounds like it would make breastfeeding with augmented breasts possible too. Although I admittedly don't know anything specific about that topic.

I met Shula at the Vulvagraphics show and knew immediately that she was "Dodson & Ross" material.  It was the black bustier, the red hair, and her brilliant mind.  She'll be blogging on body image/sexuality and relationship issues.  Here's her full bio:

Shula Melamed holds a B.S. in Communication from Boston University and a M.A. in Psychology from the New School for Social research.

It is from a variety of experiences, not only academic, but also professional and social that allows for Shula to speak on a number of topics regarding relationships, sexuality and self-presentation with some authority.

It was summer of 2007, the year that one of the most ubiquitous lifestyle pieces covered in major media outlets was the emergence of a very interesting fitness phenomenon - pole dancing for everyone! I was preparing to go into my second year of my master's program in psychology and was working with a preeminent sex therapist. Not convinced that becoming a clinician was the route for me I was looking for a sexuality topic to create a research program around.

The coverage of recreational pole dance class in the media was highly visual and the sight of regular women working the pole seemed to intrigue, titillate and entertain the general public.

Baubo is one of many wild Grecian goddesses of sacred sexuality, the Crone- a wise old woman who is full of irreverent joy and comically lewd behavior. She has been called the belly goddess of laughter and obscenity, a refreshing contrast to contemporary images of old age. Baubo also represents three aspects of women's lives: sexuality, old age and transformative personal power though sexual liberation. Instead of an old woman ravaged by time with nothing about her that is remotely sexual, Baubo radiates her Crone sexual energy with a functioning postmenopausal orgasmic vulva! This concept upsets all societies that scorn or totally deny older women's sexuality.

A new DNA test given to women as young as 18 can predict how long you have left to start a family.  At 36, I would totally have this fertility test done and know exactly how long my eggs were fertilizable.  Then I wouldn't have to hear my mother scare me with infertility stories.  God, I love science.

The breakthrough follows the discovery of a gene called Fragile X that indicates the rate at which a woman's egg supply will diminish over the years.

Professor Norbert Gleicher, of the Centre for Human Reproduction in New York, said: 'We can take an 18 or 20-year-old girl and check her Fragile X and make a pretty good prediction of whether she's at risk.'

Here's the link to our new streaming videos page that at the moment, has two brand new Dodson and Ross short erotic sex ed videos. One is called Condom Basics, showing how to put on a condom, as well as tips for better condom use. (see also my blog post on my Advanced Condom Tips) The other video highlights the basics of anal sex for women, but can be applied to men as well. When I watched this one especially, it showed me in third person how hot sex skills not only feel, but look.

We also have, in a series of six segments, Betty's popular female masturbation erotic sex ed video, Orgasmic Women. All the clips very affordably priced too. It's learning that's hot.

Discovered a good way to help remedy a consistent problem I have with condoms: how often they slip off after more than ten minutes of consistent intercourse. Also, women with strong PC muscles and/or consistently hard, full, erectile tissue located (as in all women) at the first inch or two inside the vaginal opening will be able to apply more grip to the penis. Incredible for the penis, but makes pulling a condom off even easier, especially if doing any kind of intercourse that's medium paced or faster.

I never watch Gossip Girl but thought about tivoing an upcoming episode when I saw the famed "threesome" promo.  The Parents Television Council flipped penning a letter to the CW network calling the promo "reckless and irresponsible".  

I liked the promo because it was the first time I've seen a threesome tease involving one woman AND TWO MEN.  "Serena" (Blake Lively) is clearly the woman in the man sandwich but you have no idea who the two men are....that's the point I think.

Nicole Kidman. She embodies the classic appeal of Hollywood that's rarely seen on the red carpet today. Behind that porcelain skin and ever-changing beauty, however, is a woman that welcomes a good challenge.

On the cover of British GQ, Kidman shows off her darker side. And, in an interview with the award-winning actress, the 42-year old mother and wife of country star Keith Urban describes her marriage as "dangerous":

"...I've explored strange sexual fetish stuff, I've explored the mundane aspect of marriage, and monogamy" - Nicole Kidman

Britney Spear's new single "3" says absolutely nothing about threesomes. The video gets the juices flowing but it's the same old dance.  The lyrics start off, "1, 2, 3 Not only you and me" which pushes the threesome button but that's as far as it goes.

When did this culture get so obsessed over fake sex and sexual innuendo? How has pop culture "progressed" towards "sexual liberation" by talking subliminally about it?

Now, sure there are plenty of popular resources that do speak frankly and straightforwardly about sexual encounters, but the infinite pool of pop culture that we absorb on a daily basis is scarce when it comes to informational and entertaining thoughts and ideas about sexuality.

Meet Lawrence Lanoff - our new blogger on all things religious, cultural, tantric, and in desperate need of demythologizing.  Betty and I met Lawrence during our "Tantra Weekend" and I knew we had to have him write for the site. 

He has quite the pedigree starting his career in film (he directed over 10 feature films - I know) then shifting gears to direct films for Playboy, start his own beauty company specializing in non-smudging lip color (he sold a ton at the swinger conventions), and find himself teaching the finer points of sexual liberation and personal growth. 

What I love most about Lawrence is his ability to question, his willingness to engage, and his appreciation for all things woman.  And you're going to love him too!

Some big names in music confirmed their unintended involvement in torturing suspected terrorists. So this week, musicians got behind a Freedom of Information Act request to reveal an exact list of songs the government used to torture detainees in the war on terror.

According to some detainees subjected to the "acoustical bombardment", Britney Spears will be on the list and so will The Boss. There are a few songs I'm actually rooting for, like Shakira's She Wolf - accompanied with the full length video. No doubt, that's the equivalent of "shock and awe" in acoustical bombardment circles.