Betty's Rock 'n Roll Orgasm Technique

Thu, 02/21/2013 - 14:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross

People always ask about Betty's Rock 'n Roll orgasm technique.

She spells it out in First Time Orgasm, Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique and her orgasm ebook Learn How to Orgasm in 4 Acts.

Basically, you're lying on your back with your legs bent hip distance apart...rocking your pelvis forward as your squeeze your pc muscle then relaxing your pelvis as your release your pc muscle. 

Rock/Squeeze...Relax/Release...Repeat. 

Then you add clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration for total vulva happiness.  Don't be disappointed if it takes some time to learn the steps.  Trust me.  It's worth it.

Here's the breakdown in Betty's own words:

THE PELVIC FLOOR MUSCLE: Consciously relax your vaginal muscles while taking several deep breaths. Then very slowly press your middle finger inside your vagina. Once inside, circle your finger feeling the contours of your vaginal barrel. Take a deep breath and relax all the surrounding muscles and focus primarily on the muscle that stops the flow of urine. Now squeeze and release this muscle on your finger. You will feel your vagina gripping your finger softly or firmly depending on the strength of your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle. Take your finger away and watch your entire genital area move from your clitoris to your anus when you contract the muscle by lifting up and squeezing. Do not bear down. Lift and release. Lift and release. Be sure to check out how to do Kegel exercises under Betty's Vaginal Barbell.

BREATHING: Next lie down on your bed, a futon, or a blanket on the floor. Make sure you are comfortable and warm. Place a pillow under your head. Your feet are on the floor with your knees bent and your legs at a comfortable angle. Take a series of deep breaths exhaling with an audible sigh. Send loving thoughts to your body. During your masturbation session it's a good idea to be able to hear yourself breathing out loud. Getting oxygen into the blood stream is essential for clitoral engorgement. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. If your nose is stopped up, do both the in and out breath with your mouth. Most women tend to hold their breath during sexual arousal so make sure you breathe.

PELVIC ROCKING: Avoid tensing up and holding your body rigid. Move your pelvis like Elvis. Roll your hips. Do a little dance lying down. Use all the movements that feel good. Loosen up and stretch. Smile. As your hips rock forward and back the muscles in your body flex and relax similar to an athlete in motion. Take a minute and dance to the music of your choice with rhythmic pelvic thrusting along with deep breathing and sounds of pleasure. Remember sex is about having fun and feeling good. During your entire masturbation session, a gentle rocking motion can become perpetual motion. Rest if you get tired.

PENETRATION WITH PC MUSCLE: Now that you are in touch with your PC muscle, you are ready to do slow penetration. If you are new to vaginal penetration begin with your finger. Then use a peeled carrot or zucchini gradually making them bigger. Just be aware that squeezing your vaginal muscle will tend to push the veggie dildo out so hold it with one hand. If you have Betty's Barbell, penetration virgins or postmenopausal women unaccustomed to vaginal penetration will place the smaller ball of the Barbell just at the vaginal opening (inside the vestibule). As you begin to squeeze and release the PC muscle, observe the sensation. Penetrate your vagina very slowly going an inch at a time while pausing to grip and release the dildo or Barbell with your muscle. Once the Barbell is inserted, it stays in place leaving both hands free. Your veggie dildo will get pushed out as you squeeze the muscle, so hold it in place.

CLITORAL STIMULATION: With the Barbell in place, add clitoral stimulation first with your oiled finger. Release all expectations of what you "should" be feeling. Just observe what is happening without any judgments. Stay with manual as long as it feels good. When you desire more clitoral sensation, add a battery vibrator. Stay with this for as long as it feels good.

For women using an electric vibrator, begin with the switch on low. Its okay to experiment with high later on, but the low setting will allow you to take time and enjoy all your pleasurable sensations. Keep a light touch. The whole point of selfloving is to train your body to tolerate higher levels of sexual pleasure that last longer than a few moments.


I use Betty's Rock 'n Roll techique during masturbation and partnersex. You can't just lie there and expect orgasms to fall down from heaven. At first, it felt like it was too much to think about but eventually with enough practice it became second nature.  I promise - if you use the rock 'n roll technique in your masturbation practice, you'll train your body to orgasm during partnersex.  Just don't forget to do your own clitoral stimulation. 

You can watch video of Betty's Rock 'n Roll technique in the links below:

Betty and Carlin on Trekant (Betty takes you step by step through a private session with me)

The Orgasm Dr. DVD
The Orgasm Dr. Carin (watch online)
The Orgasm Dr. Cynthia (watch online)

Editor in Chief & Keeper of All Things Betty Dodson

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Thank you ladies for teaching

Wed, 09/03/2014 - 16:16
KG (not verified)

Thank you ladies for teaching me this. It's not only helped when I get myself off, but also helped teach me how to get him to hit my gspot during sex. A revelation in my life!! Thanks!!

Nice post!

Tue, 09/23/2014 - 10:45
women bodybuilding (not verified)

Very nice eand informative post, thanks for sharing ladies!

OMG!! Thank you!!!

Tue, 11/10/2015 - 05:21
Sosohappy (not verified)

I cannot thank you enough. I am 38 years old, and after 30 years+ of tension orgasms that I could achieve in one single way (lying face down and rubbing my clitoris against either my fists or my partner's penis under me, but not inside me -- and very vigorously, with all my weight, to the point that I would always worry about hurting my partner!), finally I found your website and decided it was time to do something about it. I read this article and then watched the video of Carlin bravely showing the world how to achieve a rock n'roll orgasm. 3 trials and bang, it finally worked!! While I was certain I could never get an orgasm while lying on my back or having my legs spread!! Amazing. I felt like it wasn't going to work but finally I stopped thinking about what I was actually feeling and started to fantasize, and gradually I began to get the same, if not better, sensations as with my usual technique! And all this happened without any toys. I used my hand, and for penetration, the best I could find was the rubber-covered handle of a woman's razor (I removed the blade of course!)!!
So my advice to the women trying like me: you need to get really really aroused. Spend at least an hour building arousal by reading erotic stories or watching a film or whatever makes you horny. In my case, success at the 3rd trial was largely due to my crazy imagination. While I focused on my feelings, nothing much happened, but as soon as I started to imagine my partner inside me, talking dirty, waow, it all came very quickly!
So thank you Betty and Carlin! This is going to change my life!!

Your website has just changed my life

Mon, 06/13/2016 - 21:15
Andrea F (not verified)

I know that may sound a little dramatic but that's exactly how I feel.

I've never had an orgasm durring sex. I'm convinced I'm built differently than most and that my clit will never be naturally stimulated durring sex by my partner rubbing against me. That's ok. I enjoy sex a lot and sometimes on rare occasions I'm able to come because of g spot stimulation.

I did not have a clitoral orgasm until I was 22 (just turned 29). This was accidentally one afternoon while experimenting with a vibeator and watching porn. Since then I can regularly have orgasms using a vibe, typically while watching porn and then if I have enough in a row I can usually bail on the porn and then just entertain myself with my own thoughts. Bottom line- I needed a distraction and a vibrator.

Boyfriends would try to stimulate me on my clit and I would usually just fake something because I was embarrassed I felt nothing at all. I would try occasionally on my own, get frustrated and go back to my vibe.

The man I'm with now is wonderful, I feel very comfortable and open with him and our sex life so far has been very satisfying and a lot of fun exploring our fantasies and getting to know one another.

He's mentioned wanting to watch me masturbate which makes me feel very sexy and I want to do that with him. This past weekend I gave it a go. I'm usually very shy to spread my legs and show the goods like that but I went for it, tried to keep the thoughts sexy and it didn't work. I even had my trusty bullet and I felt absolutely nothing. This scared me.

So today I read a lot. I decided I wanted to finally learn how to give myself a clitoral orgasm with just my fingers so eventually I could do it for my significant other and then maybe he would be able to give me one down the road. Something I read today was "you will not get an orgasm from someone else if you can't give one to yourself." This made a lot of sense to me.

So I spent my lunch break and a good portion of my evening reading articles on girls with similar but not exactly my "problem." Finally I came across this article, put my phone down and went into my room with intention. I told myself I would practice your steps. Work on the up and down motion while getting used to engaging my muscles. Breath, breath, breath (something my yoga instructor constantly has to remind me). I played around with myself for a little bit and then just started to circle my clit. It felt nice, and feeling anything was exciting. Slowly it started to build and I would have little moments of familiar sensations I would have while using my vibrator, which was very exciting. I felt myself get very wet which never really happens unless something is inside me... I would feel another sensation and think "am I close? Am I about to orgasm?" Then it would go away, so I told myself "breath" and focused on my rythmic movement along with my contractions and it would come back. I believe I had a few little orgasms that you've mentioned in other articles, and instead of feeling disappointed that it didn't morph into the O I'm used to I looked at it as a successes and a step in te right direction.

Then, with very little warning my first ever manually stimulated clitoral orgasm exploded out of me. I laid there overwhelmed in my dark bedroom and actually cried a little. I was/am so happy. For years and years I thought I was incapable of such a thing.

I'm convinced it's a heathy combo of your physical technique, coconut oil and a good mental state of mind (my biggest foe).

I'm sorry this is so long winded but I want to genuinely say thank you. I wish I could give you a hug! I can't wait to read more and learn more about my own body as well as grow sexually with my partner.

I know that may sound a

Mon, 06/13/2016 - 21:16
Andrea F (not verified)

I know that may sound a little dramatic but that's exactly how I feel.

I've never had an orgasm durring sex. I'm convinced I'm built differently than most and that my clit will never be naturally stimulated durring sex by my partner rubbing against me. That's ok. I enjoy sex a lot and sometimes on rare occasions I'm able to come because of g spot stimulation.

I did not have a clitoral orgasm until I was 22 (just turned 29). This was accidentally one afternoon while experimenting with a vibeator and watching porn. Since then I can regularly have orgasms using a vibe, typically while watching porn and then if I have enough in a row I can usually bail on the porn and then just entertain myself with my own thoughts. Bottom line- I needed a distraction and a vibrator.

Boyfriends would try to stimulate me on my clit and I would usually just fake something because I was embarrassed I felt nothing at all. I would try occasionally on my own, get frustrated and go back to my vibe.

The man I'm with now is wonderful, I feel very comfortable and open with him and our sex life so far has been very satisfying and a lot of fun exploring our fantasies and getting to know one another.

He's mentioned wanting to watch me masturbate which makes me feel very sexy and I want to do that with him. This past weekend I gave it a go. I'm usually very shy to spread my legs and show the goods like that but I went for it, tried to keep the thoughts sexy and it didn't work. I even had my trusty bullet and I felt absolutely nothing. This scared me.

So today I read a lot. I decided I wanted to finally learn how to give myself a clitoral orgasm with just my fingers so eventually I could do it for my significant other and then maybe he would be able to give me one down the road. Something I read today was "you will not get an orgasm from someone else if you can't give one to yourself." This made a lot of sense to me.

So I spent my lunch break and a good portion of my evening reading articles on girls with similar but not exactly my "problem." Finally I came across this article, put my phone down and went into my room with intention. I told myself I would practice your steps. Work on the up and down motion while getting used to engaging my muscles. Breath, breath, breath (something my yoga instructor constantly has to remind me). I played around with myself for a little bit and then just started to circle my clit. It felt nice, and feeling anything was exciting. Slowly it started to build and I would have little moments of familiar sensations I would have while using my vibrator, which was very exciting. I felt myself get very wet which never really happens unless something is inside me... I would feel another sensation and think "am I close? Am I about to orgasm?" Then it would go away, so I told myself "breath" and focused on my rythmic movement along with my contractions and it would come back. I believe I had a few little orgasms that you've mentioned in other articles, and instead of feeling disappointed that it didn't morph into the O I'm used to I looked at it as a successes and a step in te right direction.

Then, with very little warning my first ever manually stimulated clitoral orgasm exploded out of me. I laid there overwhelmed in my dark bedroom and actually cried a little. I was/am so happy. For years and years I thought I was incapable of such a thing.

I'm convinced it's a heathy combo of your physical technique, coconut oil and a good mental state of mind (my biggest foe).

I'm sorry this is so long winded but I want to genuinely say thank you. I wish I could give you a hug! I can't wait to read more and learn more about my own body as well as grow sexually with my partner.

yeah

Tue, 11/15/2016 - 13:09
Her (not verified)

It worked! First orgasm without crossing my legs. Thank you!

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